PLEASE HELP!! Spin off to need help with invitation wording!

BellaEyes Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:03 PM

PLEASE HELP!! Spin off to need help with invitation wording!

Ok so here is the situation. My Aunt who has played a big part of me growing up, along with my mom are helping towards the wedding as well as My FH's father and Step mom. My mom's boyfriend is also like a father to me.. I have no idea how this invitation is going to be worded!

FYI - his mother has not offered to help at all nor has any intrest in the wedding at all.. so therefore, I do not think she has the right to be mentioned on the invitation.. I think it should those who helped get this whole thing off the dime!

So.. given this tricky situation HOW the heck amI going to figure this one out?!!!

FallBride05 Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:04 PM

Re: PLEASE HELP!! Spin off to need help with invitation wording!

Can you say:

Together with our families.....instead of listing everyone's name?

BellaEyes Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:08 PM

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well, I was thinking that except I don't want to insinuate that his mother contributed.. oh boy this is going to be a toughy..

Reesa Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:12 PM

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Posted by BellaEyes

well, I was thinking that except I don't want to insinuate that his mother contributed.. oh boy this is going to be a toughy..

Are you doing programs??? Maybe you can pay special tribute to th efamily members in the programs since this is def a toughie! Good luck!

FallBride05 Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:13 PM

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I think people think that because someone's name is on the invitation that others will 'know' who paid for the wedding.

I think it's more about honoring the parents rather than who paid for what.

My parents are divorced and my mother did not contribute a dime to the cost of the wedding (except my dress).

Out of respect however we did include her name on the invitation. Regardless of how we felt about it.

JMHO.

BellaEyes Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:14 PM

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hey programs are a good idea..but.. I don't know either way.. there is going to be DRAMA .

Reesa Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:16 PM

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Posted by BellaEyes

hey programs are a good idea..but.. I don't know either way.. there is going to be DRAMA .

I know. Just remember that you can't please everyone

hocus Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:21 PM

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Posted by BellaEyes

well, I was thinking that except I don't want to insinuate that his mother contributed.. oh boy this is going to be a toughy..

I get why you're irritated that you FIL aren't helping, but I strongly advise not getting to petty with this. There are many women on these boards who have later regretted their decision on this issue. Including your MIL/FIL in the inviation might be a gracious thing to do. Either way I certainly hope that you show them the wording **before** you get the inviations printed so there are not suprised.

BellaEyes Posted: Mar 29, 2006 04:26 PM

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well.. see I would not mind putting her name (his mother) on there but she has no interest in the wedding and has never treated me very nice at all! As a matter of fact she's caused more drama than anything! She even has made my FH embarresed by her behavior. So, this is my reasoning for not 'honouring' her on the invite and the fact that she did not help is the secondary factor.. Unless I just have it like this..

for example:

We, Bride and Groom (our names)
together with the brides family
request your hounour in the presence of their marriage on.. (date, time, Location)..

Then like someone mentioned earlier.. do the programs... ?