My parents are paying for my wedding which I'm VERY grateful for. When we were doing invites my Dad said he wanted to invite my brother's group of 5 loud, wild, 19 yr. old friends. I said no because itsnot the time or place for them. Besides not to be rude but the day should be about me and FH not a group of loud 19 yr olds. He seemed to let it go, until today when I said we need the tables done so I can send it to the printer. Suddenly he and my mom are telling me where they are sitting!! I had no clue they were still coming! My dad became close w/them because they practically live at my house. What do u think? Is it wrong of me to not want them to come? My main concern is that my whole family knows them from being here all the time and they're wild and it will be all about them and not as classy as I would like. Please be honest! TIA
kris01
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I see both sides because my parents are paying for our reception only and they have said they want to invite certain people who I don't think should be invited so I know where you are coming from. If your dad really wants them to come - I would just cave in and say fine b/c is it really worth a 'fight' with your parents and just hope they don't cause trouble! If anything have your Dad talk to them and ask them to be on their best behavior!!
E-n-K
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I think I'm going to have to do that. I don't think I'm being given much choice anyway! Thanks I'm glad u can relate (not glad because it stinks, but glad because u know how i fell).
ruzi777
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Who know they might surprise you & be on their Best Behavior. I was surprised at my Wedding that Alot of People Stood Up and Really Helped out. You Never know.... Talk to them, and your brother. I invited 3 of my younger brother's friend. My brother is 3 years younger than me, and we all grew up together... so it was't a question if they were coming or not.
tricia3381
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hopefully it will be ok. i would be mad if my dad HAD to have certain 'unnecessary' people at my wedding. with that said it seems like ur dad invited already. the best thing u can do now is talk to the 'kids' and let them that while they're at UR reception they need to behave according to your standards. also if i was u i would point them out to the bartender and tell him they're under age. this will help with the rowdiness. yes they can still get drinks from other people there but at least they won't have a direct in. good luck!!
E-n-K
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Thanks girls! I knew I could count on you! As soon as I got angry I jumped on here cause I knew u could relate and understand more than almost anyone else I would talk to right now! I think I'll talk to them and have my Dad talk to them about how they should behave also!
2Be1
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Unfortunately this is what happens when someone else is fitting the bill
VadersBride2006
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Personally, I would be so grateful that someone else was footing the bill for my wedding that I would probably let them do whatever they wanted.
I guess, in some small way, I am lucky I'm paying for mine myself?
Nah, I'd still like a free wedding!
Marly
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It seems to me that your parents consider them a part of the family. I can see both sides of this. Maybe you can sit down and have a talk with your brother and come to some kind of understanding if his friends come to the wedding.
