please tell me why its so difficult for FMIL....

So as some of you know, my family & FILs are splitting the cost of the wedding. You may think I'm lucky. I'm not -- they have made this an awful experience for me and have reminded me and every vendor along the way that they are paying half and deserve what they want.

So now our invites are in. They need to be paid for. They need to be stuffed this weekend. Now, FMIL's mother is sick. I know its stressful and depressing but all I'm asking her to do is call the invite store and pay them over the phone. I'm not asking her to stuff, stamp, nothing. Just pay her half! And she can't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please, tell me, am I being selfish or wrong? On one hand, she's busy taking care of her mom but on the other, I'm only asking for two minutes of her time.


Ugh!

no, you aren't being selfish....she can take 5 minutes and make the call....sick mother or not. in fact, she should take some solace in doing something 'happy' (even if for 5 minutes)as opposed to staring at her sick mom!

***not that sick moms aren't important/sad, i should know.

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Posted by robynlevy

So as some of you know, my family & FILs are splitting the cost of the wedding. You may think I'm lucky. I'm not -- they have made this an awful experience for me and have reminded me and every vendor along the way that they are paying half and deserve what they want.

So now our invites are in. They need to be paid for. They need to be stuffed this weekend. Now, FMIL's mother is sick. I know its stressful and depressing but all I'm asking her to do is call the invite store and pay them over the phone. I'm not asking her to stuff, stamp, nothing. Just pay her half! And she can't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please, tell me, am I being selfish or wrong? On one hand, she's busy taking care of her mom but on the other, I'm only asking for two minutes of her time.


Ugh!

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Is it possible for you to make the payment and eventually have her give you the $$? She obviously has other stuff on her mind, and even though she has been a b!tch the entire process, you should kill her with kindness and make the payment . I know you are upset and that she has been a jerk, but her mom is sick so you could wind up looking like a bridezilla if you force her to make this call.

JMHO.

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Posted by LBride

eliminate the stress and pay for them yourself?? is that an option?

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I agree.

understand that they agreed to pay for 1/2 of everything, but if she have alot on her plate...perhaps you guys can pay for the invites. if she's nice enough, she would volunteer to pay you back. if not, it's only a few hundred dollars out of your pockets rather than look at as being inconsiderate cuz her mother is sick.

don't stressed...just be happy...at least you're getting help with the cost.

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Posted by LBride

eliminate the stress and pay for them yourself?? is that an option?

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This is what we did.

Our parents split the cost of the wedding right down the middle. However, DH and I paid for the 'extras' - invitations, favors, and any other 'incidental' that came along the way.

My father and my IL's paid for the major things:

Hall
Officiant
Flowers
Band
Photo/Video

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Posted by FallBride05

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Posted by LBride

eliminate the stress and pay for them yourself?? is that an option?

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This is what we did.

Our parents split the cost of the wedding right down the middle. However, DH and I paid for the 'extras' - invitations, favors, and any other 'incidental' that came along the way.

My father and my IL's paid for the major things:

Hall
Officiant
Flowers
Band
Photo/Video

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you were lucky,,