I know the correct answer is #4.. JMO But I can't help but get somewhat jealous even though he's NEVER coming back into her life and we're commited together as life partners.. soon to be husband and wife.
One of her ex's.. her most serious.. I cannot stand the seeing a pic of the a$$hole. I hate his face. LOL Seriously.
But even more, I cannot stand what he did to her as someone she was with.
He'd tell her.. 'You're too fat.'.. then... 'You're too skinny.' Nothing was ever right. IMO, you NEVER do that someone, especially someone you are with. That's cruel to do.
So I have being trying to tell her since Day 1.. you are beautiful. You never have to live like that again. Every time I see a pic of him, my blood boils. (Oh.. my first vent on here ever!)
Lunatrek
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You and your polls!
I picked #4. I actually like seeing pics of his ex because it makes me feel better about myself, as crass as that sounds.
PrincessRose
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I don't mind FH's Exes - they're all harmless, and it is just so over. Besides, I'm friends with most of them!
My exes are pains though - big jerks who hurt me REALLY badly. Adam probably would feel the same way you do OctGroom. In fact, and this is true, we refused to look at the Swan Club when we were site hunting. Why? Because it's located on Scudder's lane. One of my exes' last name is Scudder. Adam nearly lunged at the suggestion and said 'NO WAY IS THAT NAME GOING TO BE ON OUR WEDDING INVITATION!' That caused quite an argument, let me tell you.
ETA: My parents were the ones who had a problem with it, not me, obviously. They wanted me to look EVERYWHERE to get the best possible deal. This, of course, was after the argument about having the wedding on Long Island and not CT.
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FH doesn't have any pics.........so I guess I will choose #4
OctGroom
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Posted by Lunatrek
You and your polls!
I picked #4. I actually like seeing pics of his ex because it makes me feel better about myself, as crass as that sounds.
I love some of the polls I've done... some are better than others. There'll be more. LOL
Diane
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FH doesn't have any pics.........so I guess I will choose #4 [/QUOTS
Same here
yabbobay
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hows this one (DH is from a small town)
his ex is married to his SIL's brother!!!
but I'm glad his ex is around...b/c shes more normal than DH's SIL...so I can talk to her instead!!
I guess since both are married - its a little less weird...and we live 4 1/2 hours away
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I’ll admit that I chose # 1. My FH does not like to discuss past relationships, but there is one ex of his that I know a bit about from some of his friends, and she sounds like a total biotch – not very nice to my man. His parents still have some pics of the two of them together in a photo album, and I refuse to even look. I understand she’s part of his past, and has no bearing on our relationship, but I just get so pissed when I think about her!
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I picked #4
MizStinker
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#1
Im not gonna lie
FMIL even has his prom picture (with his Ex) up on her mantel.
Thanks Lady
OctGroom
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Just to clarify.. I picked #1.
She has a small album with some pics of him in it.. I really don't want her to bring it when we move in together. Her sister left lots of her own stuff with a serious ex at their mom's house when she moved in with her FH... so I'm hoping she does the same thing. JMO.. I think #4 is best.
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Woo Hoo, another poll! Your polls are what I always look forward on the NWR board, OctGroom!!
I picked #2 (YES.. But only if it was a serious 'ex') Most of his ex's don't bother me, it was just the last one b/f we met. I wish I were more mature and 'evolved' in this aspect, but I truly hated stumbling across pics of him with her (he had long packed them up, mind you..). In every pic I've seen of them together she was hanging all over him and being so clingy and suggstive.. it would just irk me!
Background: I had a real insecurity problem with her from the beginning, because they were together A VERY LONG TIME and she pretty much used him. She often tried to use the same sick, emotional blackmail to get him back on countless occassion after we were together..
Oh, did I mention they presently STILL work together?? And that everyone in his office knew them as 'that cute couple' and would call me by her name in the early days! At first they would not even believe he'd broken up with her, since she would tell people they were together, even after we were dating seriously (hey, FH works with losers - what can I say?)
OK - I'm acting the part of the jealous FW here!
I never doubted FH, or the fact our love was special. That was clear to me from Day 1 .. and to some degree, that fact I was so jealous of HER made me realize that I loved FH much more than I'd ever loved anyone before!
Suffice to say, I'm over HER. And I hardly think about it anymore....
... but that still doesn't mean I want to see her pics LOL!
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Funny question!! Since right now FH's high school sweetheart is staying with us. She is going through a divorce and needed a place to stay. I am actually fine with the situation for the most part. I only mind because FH and I have no alone time together anymore.
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Posted by MizStinker
FMIL even has his prom picture (with his Ex) up on her mantel.
Ew?!
OctGroom
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Posted by FeliciaDA
Woo Hoo, another poll! Your polls are what I always look forward on the NWR board, OctGroom!!
I picked #2 (YES.. But only if it was a serious 'ex') Most of his ex's don't bother me, it was just the last one b/f we met. I wish I were more mature and 'evolved' in this aspect, but I truly hated stumbling across pics of him with her (he had long packed them up, mind you..). In every pic I've seen of them together she was hanging all over him and being so clingy and suggstive.. it would just irk me!
Background: I had a real insecurity problem with her from the beginning, because they were together A VERY LONG TIME and she pretty much used him. She often tried to use the same sick, emotional blackmail to get him back on countless occassion after we were together..
Oh, did I mention they presently STILL work together?? And that everyone in his office knew them as 'that cute couple' and would call me by her name in the early days! At first they would not even believe he'd broken up with her, since she would tell people they were together, even after we were dating seriously (hey, FH works with losers - what can I say?)
OK - I'm acting the part of the jealous FW here!
I never doubted FH, or the fact our love was special. That was clear to me from Day 1 .. and to some degree, that fact I was so jealous of HER made me realize that I loved FH much more than I'd ever loved anyone before!
Suffice to say, I'm over HER. And I hardly think about it anymore....
... but that still doesn't mean I want to see her pics LOL!
I am very glad you like the polls! I try my best.. some have been good.. some.. well.. let's say forgettable.. haha
I truly hear you about everything you wrote. MY fw actually took 2 years off from dating before meeting me. She dated a couple of guys.. one right after her serious ex.. but he was too fast, too eager.. and she wasn't ready for that. After a time she tried the online thing, the firtst guy she dated was a nut. LOL
Then she met me after that.. and the rest is history!
Though I think the FW and I are alot alike.. I told her about a woman in my life.. and she was like.. 'yeah yeah yeah'.. So I changed the subject. LOL
Well.. You love your FH Your FH loves you I love my Fw My fw loves me...
