I've become so obsessed with trying to figure out when my shower is that I truly believe I am driving my mother and sister CRAZY!!! I don't want to get dressed up every weekend because I have a special outfit that I'd like to wear.
Here's the question: Should I have my mother and sister tell me when it is (the day of) so I know to get dressed up but I won't know where I'm going or what they've done? My mother has told me that it would be easier if she just tells me when it is because they are finding it difficult lying to me all the time when I ask.
What do you girls honestly think?
Tell me what I should do.
teacherwheart
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I think you should relax about the whole thing. This is a special time to enjoy, all you have to do is show up and have fun, let your mother and sister handle everything. I feel it is nice to be surprised with your shower. Just my opinion, you have enough to get stressed over.
Jan05Bride
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I think you should hand over your special outfit to your mother so that when you arrive all surprised you can change into it!
wc0143
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I think they should tell you now if it's really causing you to stress so much. I don't know why it has to be a surprise if you are not comfortable with that.
SeptemberBride03
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I was going to say the same thing - give your Mom your outfit and change there! They obviously want to surprise you and you make them tell you they will be disappointed. This is something that Mothers live for - I wouldn't take that away from her and your MOH.
May2004
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Posted by Jan05Bride
I think you should hand over your special outfit to your mother so that when you arrive all surprised you can change into it!
I was just going to say that
Nora101004
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Why don't you give your mom the outfit you want to wear. Then show up to your shower surprised and in something else, then go change into the special outfit.
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I think you should relax and let your family do your their thing. They are obviously trying to make it a special day for you and it will be a lovely event - special outfit or not. If you are that concerned - give FI or your mom the special outfit to bring to the event. I never understand why brides need to know when it is...let them do something nice for you and don't make it more difficult for them.
I remember as it got close to my day, I was afraid I would be dressed inappropriately (not that my family would care b/c we dress casually for showers but DH's family is much more formal and I didn't want them to talk about me) so I told DH to be sure I am dressed nice that day (DH is good like that) and if I am not to grab something from my closet to bring (I gave him a few ideas... )
mrsmeri1104
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JMO.................. No Way!!!!!!!!!! My shower was this past Sunday I had no idea and had the best time. Plus everyone gets so excited when they know it's surprise.
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Part of me agrees with you. I don't know why showers have to be surprises. Most of us know we're getting one and most brides figure out the day it's going to be, anyway.
That said, here's what I am doing. It sounds as though your mom and sister would like to suprise you. Why not just let them surprise you? It would probably make them very happy. In the long run, the outfit won't really matter. Making them happy: priceless.
ETA: Giving your mom the outfit sounds like a good compromise.
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ABSOLUTELY NOT!
It's your shower.... let the people who care about you do something nice for you.
CubanBride
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For mine I have to know the date. I do not like surprises at all and do not want my shower to be a surprise. Ugh! that just annoys me.
So if you want to know the date, then ask. But don't ask anything else.
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Posted by Jan05Bride
I think you should hand over your special outfit to your mother so that when you arrive all surprised you can change into it!
I completely agree! And try to relax!
Stacey04
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If you don't like surprises, then I would say, have them tell you.
If you don't care either way, then forget about it and let it be a surprise
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Posted by May2004
Posted by Jan05Bride
I think you should hand over your special outfit to your mother so that when you arrive all surprised you can change into it!
I was just going to say that
that's what i was going to say too. try to relax about it. it will be great no matter what.
