OK, so i am thinking of asking one of FH's best friends GF's to be in the bridal party. We are not THAT close, but i know that they are going to get married, and we will be in each others lives forever. I dont know if i should leave it or just ask her. I know some people are not always that excited to be in a wedding party. I did ask his other best friends gf to be in it, so i dont know if i have to or should ask the other one too????
I dont think you have to ask her.. I would just ask close friends or family.. Its definately been difficult for me,i didnt decide yet on bridal party cause i cant decide between my friends. I am prob not even having one person that has me in theirs.. cause I have friends i have been close to a lot longer than that person.. and I cant have like 20 people in it. 11 is enough for me and i dont even want that much!! :( I dont think its necessary to have someone that ur not close with.. unless Fh would really like you to have her and its important to him.. then if you have room in your BP then ask her. but, take it from someone that was asked to be in a bridal party and didnt expect it.. I now feel obligated to have this person in mine and I just cant.. so now it put me in an awkward situation.. hope this helps!!:)
Thank you ladies....
I'm sort of in the same situation. I am only having a moh and 1 bm..both friends since childhood. FH's best man is his childhood friend also and his wife I know as well. We all go out as a couple together but as you, we're not close. Like we don't hang out just me and her, talk outside there. I wasn't in her BP which she had already chosen and was all family except for 2 friends and I had met her only a few months before. I had considered asking and FH suggested it too but but I don't want her to feel akward. But also she is married to someone in the bridal party so it would be nice and she may expect it.
Posted by Iluvpoodles
I'm sort of in the same situation. I am only having a moh and 1 bm..both friends since childhood. FH's best man is his childhood friend also and his wife I know as well. We all go out as a couple together but as you, we're not close. Like we don't hang out just me and her, talk outside there. I wasn't in her BP which she had already chosen and was all family except for 2 friends and I had met her only a few months before. I had considered asking and FH suggested it too but but I don't want her to feel akward. But also she is married to someone in the bridal party so it would be nice and she may expect it.
Clearly I don't know her, but I don't think she will expect it. Fh has a lot of GMs whose gfs or fiances I know but am not including in the BP--it should be people who are special to you!
Posted by MLoise0605
Posted by Iluvpoodles
I'm sort of in the same situation. I am only having a moh and 1 bm..both friends since childhood. FH's best man is his childhood friend also and his wife I know as well. We all go out as a couple together but as you, we're not close. Like we don't hang out just me and her, talk outside there. I wasn't in her BP which she had already chosen and was all family except for 2 friends and I had met her only a few months before. I had considered asking and FH suggested it too but but I don't want her to feel akward. But also she is married to someone in the bridal party so it would be nice and she may expect it.
I know, her BF (who is proposing soon) is in the bridal party, and the other girl i asked we arent that that close but we do talk alot more then i do with her. I just dont want her to 'expect' it and hate me forever..lol
Posted by MLoise0605
OK, so i am thinking of asking one of FH's best friends GF's to be in the bridal party. We are not THAT close, but i know that they are going to get married, and we will be in each others lives forever. I dont know if i should leave it or just ask her. I know some people are not always that excited to be in a wedding party. I did ask his other best friends gf to be in it, so i dont know if i have to or should ask the other one too????
Posted by JAAMS
Posted by MLoise0605
OK, so i am thinking of asking one of FH's best friends GF's to be in the bridal party. We are not THAT close, but i know that they are going to get married, and we will be in each others lives forever. I dont know if i should leave it or just ask her. I know some people are not always that excited to be in a wedding party. I did ask his other best friends gf to be in it, so i dont know if i have to or should ask the other one too????
I am having the EXACT SAME issue! And I am 99% sure asking her. I asked myself these questions:
Have we gotten close in the past few months?
Do I see us continuing to grow closer?
Do I see our children playing together one day?
Do I want to look back at BP pics and have her in them?
I answered YES to all of the above, so I've decided I'm going to! Unless there is some sudden turn of events before I get to.
If you are not that close I would not ask her. You may be in each other forever but for right now I would not ! Also does she know your other BM well if you too are not close she may feel uncomfortable , I would just invite her to the shower and your B-party!! JMO
If you want to have her in your wedding then go for it but don't do it out of obligation...
ask her to be a reader, so she still feels included.
