post bride depression...

sugar4spc Posted: Oct 14, 2006 02:54 PM

post bride depression...

i heard on the radio that brides after the wedding are usually depressed for 3 months because they have nothing to do with thier time becuase they are so used to be the center of attention and busy planning the wedding. Im sure i wont be depressed ill be relieved and ready for my next chapter.... bring it on!

sarahradio5 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 03:04 PM

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I knew a bride that had it... not a close friend at all.. just a former coworker.

she was in therapy for months, instead of travelling the world with him, as planned (he even retired to travel with her).

She actually made him plan ANOTHER wedding WITH her because she was so depressed that she felt she MISSED her entire wedding taking pictures the whole time!!!

Guess what? They ended up getting divorced...

JenMike331 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 03:06 PM

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Posted by sugar4spc

i heard on the radio that brides after the wedding are usually depressed for 3 months because they have nothing to do with thier time becuase they are so used to be the center of attention and busy planning the wedding. Im sure i wont be depressed ill be relieved and ready for my next chapter.... bring it on!

me too!!!!!!!! actually im semi-depressed now with all the changes....name-change....house-change....etc bc its all the 'unknown' ya know ur always afraid of the unknown....but of course im happy and excited at the same time....after ur im used to all the changes which will be after the wedding i think ill be so much more at ease and not depressed at all

TheFutureMrsM Posted: Oct 14, 2006 03:09 PM

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Posted by sarahradio5

I knew a bride that had it... not a close friend at all.. just a former coworker.

she was in therapy for months, instead of travelling the world with him, as planned (he even retired to travel with her).

She actually made him plan ANOTHER wedding WITH her because she was so depressed that she felt she MISSED her entire wedding taking pictures the whole time!!!

Guess what? They ended up getting divorced...

This is a great story, love it, im literally laughing my A$$ off right now

ant n tilde Posted: Oct 14, 2006 03:47 PM

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i kind of understand it- there is always a let down after a big event - i even feel a little sad after christmas, or weddings that i am a part of - all that planning then all of a sudden its over - its kind of anticlimactic!

BUT i think that happens bc we get caught up in teh wedding more than the marriage sometimes! hopefully i will be as excited for the next 50 years as i am for that one important day!

eden Posted: Oct 14, 2006 03:53 PM

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well since i already got married i can safely say from experience that there's abit of a wedding planning withdrawal experienced AFTER the day....

i definitely feel like i got so much more time on my hand and feel i need another diversion.

some women decide to go right into planning for a baby, others decorating their new home, while others look for another way of spending all their free time... taking dancing, cooking or other types of classes. :)

i wonder if the feeling those depressed women have is anything like breaking up with an SO? hm....

2Be1 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 04:02 PM

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Thats because many brides spend so much time focusing on preparing for a 'wedding' and not a 'marriage'

Goldi1021 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 04:06 PM

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I had many other things to absorb my time and attention after the wedding. I did not experience this.

Boston&NY2006 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 05:36 PM

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I've definitely known some brides who have gotten really depressed after their wedding. I haven't felt one ounce of sadness. I've basically just been glad it's all over and we can finally move on with our lives.

Yeah, our wedding was great, but being married is soooooo much better!

waterspout4 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 05:40 PM

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We both felt a bit sad 2 days later as we were traveling to our honeymoon. Then we got over real quick in paradise. I was thankful to have my thoughts back again. I never realized I was constantly planning in my head. My DH said the same thing. He was a great help during the planning process!!

JIFFY Posted: Oct 14, 2006 06:14 PM

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I hear ya!! That's why I want to become a wedding planner. This stuff is so much fun. I just figure after the wedding then I will start tearing the walls down in the house. I'm always starting projects to keep me busy!

SummerBride06 Posted: Oct 14, 2006 09:59 PM

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i was the opposite. i was so relieved the whole planning nonsense was over!

Michy Posted: Oct 14, 2006 10:52 PM

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My sister actually had it really bad. It was not that she was bored but it was all the change that she was going through. She was depressed to leave home and go to a new home. She missed all of us and her cat that she could not take with her. It was definetly difficult for her but within a few months she did start to feel better. It definetly is something that can happen.

Audreygirl Posted: Oct 15, 2006 08:43 AM

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i'm not married yet but i am COUNTING DOWN the days to get my life back!!! just 20 days to go!! i wanna be able to just sit at home doing nothing, study when i have to, play with my dog, hang out with fh without having to do with wedding stuff, and not have to be so busy with wedding planning in general.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Oct 15, 2006 09:10 AM

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Posted by SummerBride06

i was the opposite. i was so relieved the whole planning nonsense was over!

Me too! I never experienced one day of the post-wedding blues. Would I do the day over again? Sure. The year and a half of planning? NEVER!!!

CLMon7906 Posted: Oct 15, 2006 09:26 AM

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Posted by LaurenluvsTJ

Posted by SummerBride06

i was the opposite. i was so relieved the whole planning nonsense was over!
Me too! I never experienced one day of the post-wedding blues. Would I do the day over again? Sure. The year and a half of planning? NEVER!!!

same here. the headache was over. i was in heaven.

lipglossjunky73 Posted: Oct 15, 2006 12:46 PM

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Not in the least - I loved it, it was great, it was wonderful, but I knew it was going to be one day (actually, less than a day) of my life, and then the marriage begins.

I was thrilled to get that time back in my life. I was ecstatic never having to call another vendor again - I even dreaded still having to follow up on wedding pics and video - I was like - enough already!!!!

I think people focus too much on the wedding and not what it represents - I am very happy with myself, and usually am the center of attention anyway, whether I'm in a poofy white dress or not....

ssdbk Posted: Oct 15, 2006 11:53 PM

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I had some moments of post bride depression, BUT they were literally just passing moments that happened a very few times. I expected to feel truly sad that my wedding was over, but I felt very content.