What would be the worst thing about postponing the wedding? WE're just so stressed, don't have enough $, are fighting a lot about things, questioning some other things. Has anyone else been through this? I really want to be excited about this wedding and I'm really not right now. My FH admits to being scared and unsure about the whole thing. He's not unsure about me, but doesn't know if he wants to continue this whole thing.
Sorry to put a damper on everything... I need some advice, we definitely love eachother but are having so many issues.
nferrandi
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If you were to postpone it, what would be different later? You'll never have 'enough' money and you've already gotten this far. If you guys know you're going to get married and there's no doubts about that, than I say why wait. But if you guys are having difficulties or doubts about the relationship, then postponing may not be a bad idea. Good luck and do whatever feels right in your heart.
Kelly9904
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You have to do what is right for you and only you!
In my opinion though, I dont know that the stress would be any less at a later date! There is always soemthing to be worked up over! I feel that if you go this far, are only 2 months away, why postpone unless you are unsure about getting married at all. You are almost done and in 2 months you can begin your life as husband and wife and this stress will all be a distant memory.
I can say I am 100% with you on one thing, i havent enjoyed this process! But I think thats because the wedding isnt as important to me as I once believe and as we get closer there are more'issues' that arise! I would never think of pushing it back though, because I am doing this for one reason, I cant wait to be married to him! Nothing else matters to me but that! So I will suck it up for teh rest of my engagement, knowing I really didnt like it and just rejoice when we finally are married!
Good Luck whatever you decide to do!
queenlizard
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I just don't want to get married and then be divroced in 2 years becaude we shoul've waited . I think we have to reevaluate the whole thing because he said he's not happy. That's the most upsetting thing
allaboutthecake
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I feel so bad. Is he unhappy just in general, about the wedding, or is it something else? You could always postpone the wedding but as others have said would it make it better? Of course people may be disappointed, but you just have to worry about yourself and not let others influence you. Would you yourself feel better if you postponed it?
queenlizard
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Your right, it doesn't matter what others think. Just the two of us. I still think he's generally unhappy too
nov.bride
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I agree with everyone- It is about the 2 of you.
To postpone the wedding for a while would not be the end of the world. You are definetly better off going into marriage which can be awkward on the same page.
I give you credit for having the courage and strength to recognize that there could be issues that the both of you can work on.
I think a lot of people feel this way when you are getting down to the wire.
BEst of luck- you sound very level headed and I know you will get through this. Edited for spelling
