Preggo BM's (slight vent)

So I just found out that now three of my seven BM's are currently TTC (so that they will either be pregnant or about to pop by the time by wedding rolls around). I originally knew that my 2 best friends were both trying, but last nite my FSIL called me and mentioned that they have also started trying.

I know that anything can happen between now and then, but am I wrong to feel the slightest bit frustrated/bummed that my wedding pics are going to look like a Pea in the Pod advertisement?

I know how this sounds, and I am the last person in the world to be selfish, but there is a small part of me that is a little annoyed. We are pretty much the last of our friends to get married....and all I ever hear about now are ovulation kits and mucus levels..yes mucus!!

When I show them pics of BM dresses I like, I hear, 'well that sash might not look that great if we are pregnant.' So, now I have to look for dresses that will somewhat flatter three (possibly) pregnant women, and my cousin who refuses to wear a strapless dress.

Wow..I guess this evolved from a slight vent, huh?!

Your post made me laugh. I'm one of the last of my friends to get married and I told them all (jokingly) that if they were all pregnant when I got married I wasn't going to have them as bridesmaid.
Honestly, I totally see your point but what can you do, ya know? At least its only 3 of them and not 7!

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Posted by ido06

I know that anything can happen between now and then, but am I wrong to feel the slightest bit frustrated/bummed that my wedding pics are going to look like a Pea in the Pod advertisement?

When I show them pics of BM dresses I like, I hear, 'well that sash might not look that great if we are pregnant.' So, now I have to look for dresses that will somewhat flatter three (possibly) pregnant women, and my cousin who refuses to wear a strapless dress.

Wow..I guess this evolved from a slight vent, huh?!

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You asked - yes, in my opinion, you are wrong for being anything but happy and excited for your friends. No one should ever have to plan building their family around any event. A wedding is a joyous celebration of families coming together. What sense does it make that you are going to be upset that some of your BM's will be working on building up their own families?

Now you will have beautiful pictures of your very closest friends and family at a unique time that will be like no other. I happen to think pregnant women are the most beautiful women and I personally would be HONORED to have all of my BM's busting with beautiful lives inside their bellies.

I'm sorry but this attitude of 'It's my wedding, blah blah blah' I just think it a bunch of bull$hit!

GET OVER IT!

You asked - yes, in my opinion, you are wrong for being anything but happy and excited for your friends. No one should ever have to plan building their family around any event. A wedding is a joyous celebration of families coming together. What sense does it make that you are going to be upset that some of your BM's will be working on building up their own families?

Now you will have beautiful pictures of your very closest friends and family at a unique time that will be like no other. I happen to think pregnant women are the most beautiful women and I personally would be HONORED to have all of my BM's busting with beautiful lives inside their bellies.

I'm sorry but this attitude of 'It's my wedding, blah blah blah' I just think it a bunch of bull$hit!

GET OVER IT!

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Wow you certainly are vocal! Thanks for sharing your opinion.

I just found out that my sister is pregnant this weekend and I couldn't be more excited. I can't wait to see her with a little belly at my wedding. I'm not worried about pictures AT ALL, in fact that I think they'll be beautiful!
I'll look back at those pictures one day and be able to show my niece or nephew that they were in Mommys belly right there on my special day, how lucky am I?

If anything I'm upset for the fact that she has to plan my B'Party, my shower and spend money on these things when they should be saving for the baby....(I told her not to spend to much but she's not hearing it haha)

Also, my sisters best friend was about 8 months pregnant at her wedding and when we look at the pics now, you can barely notice it.

I know your initial reaction is to be upset but think about it, what if the roles were revearsed, would you plan your pregnancy around someones wedding?

I HTH!

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Posted by ido06


You asked - yes, in my opinion, you are wrong for being anything but happy and excited for your friends. No one should ever have to plan building their family around any event. A wedding is a joyous celebration of families coming together. What sense does it make that you are going to be upset that some of your BM's will be working on building up their own families?

Now you will have beautiful pictures of your very closest friends and family at a unique time that will be like no other. I happen to think pregnant women are the most beautiful women and I personally would be HONORED to have all of my BM's busting with beautiful lives inside their bellies.

I'm sorry but this attitude of 'It's my wedding, blah blah blah' I just think it a bunch of bull$hit!

GET OVER IT!

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Wow you certainly are vocal! Thanks for sharing your opinion.

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LOL!! I totally understand... I also have two very pregnant BM's in the wedding. One is due two weeks after the wedding so she can go that night. I was frustrated and happy at the same time when I first found out. Now I'm just really happy for the two of them. What else can you do?! I't's going to be a wonderful time for everyone and just think... you may be on your HM when then go so when you get back it'll be exciting. I understand the venting, but as it gets closer you'll realize how beautiful they look with you on your day...

Don't worry everything will be fine. the photographer will work around the expanding bellies. My sil was oh so very preggo at her sisters wedding. So preggo she gave birth while her sister was on her honeymoon . The pics still look great. I admit one of my bm will be getting married this july. She just announced her engagement. I am hoping to me preggo by then even if I am in the wedding party. I can't put my family on hold for some one elses wedding. I have been planning this since before she announced her engagement/wedding. So don't worry everything will be fine and the pics will still be beautiful.
This is a pic from the wedding. The bride is actaully a bride from this site. But other then my sil's eyes being closed the pic is a good one.

i think it might be cute, don't worry yourself about it...I actually think pregnant bridesmaids are beautiful...

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Posted by dplehat

Don't worry everything will be fine. the photographer will work around the expanding bellies. My sil was oh so very preggo at her sisters wedding. So preggo she gave birth while her sister was on her honeymoon . The pics still look great. I admit one of my bm will be getting married this july. She just announced her engagement. I am hoping to me preggo by then even if I am in the wedding party. I can't put my family on hold for some one elses wedding. I have been planning this since before she announced her engagement/wedding. So don't worry everything will be fine and the pics will still be beautiful.
This is a pic from the wedding. The bride is actaully a bride from this site. But other then my sil's eyes being closed the pic is a good one.

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They look gorgeous...thank you for sharing that pic

Let me clarify that I am in NO WAY expecting anyone to ever put their lives on hold for my wedding!

I am not in any way asking them to pause the expansion of their family! I would never even think that way.

I am very happy for them, and I know that it is something they ALL want desperately and I would never begrudge them that....that is why I said 'slightly' bothered..like 1%....I am 99% happy for them and excited that they will be in my wedding. That 1% was my own hormonal issue this morning.

dont worry too much about it,

I think people who say get over it don't have the experience!

I am happy for my sister that she is pg. however she is due the week BEFORE my wedding and lives in VA. we are ordering a maternity dress anyway (she's changed her mind a hundred times) and there is a good chance she wont even be here for my wedding, and she's my MOH.

so even though, yes, you cant pick the dresses you may want, be happy that they will probably be there, nice and pregnant, for your wedding! id rather have my sister 8 months pregnant at the weddig as opposed to not there at all.

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Posted by Renee615

I completely understand your feelings. I would feel that way too. Remember though... You are the bride...everyone will be looking at you, not them. As far as the dresses, pick whatever YOU like. If they don't like it, they don't need to be in your BP. Try not to worry about it too much, and definitely don't worry about people who respond with rudeness and without any tact on this site.

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I couldn't agree more......and I hear ya on your frustrations......I had the same issue with a girlfriend of mine since 4th grade...she has been married for 6 years and has known about the wedding for 2 years......she is also going to 'try' to get pregnant and questioned the BM dress...so I told her that I liked the dress that I picked and she can order it in whatever size she wants and when/if she is pregnant we will figure it out then but until then it's in Gods hands not mine or hers.....hope this helps

I can understand your frustration as my sister (my MOH) just told me last month that she's pregnant as well and they've been trying since Sept (which I knew nothing about). However, I can be nothing but happy for her as I'm gonna be an auntie all over again and guess what.....my new lil niece or nephew gets to be in my wedding too!! We will always be able to show them pics of the wedding and tell them what a special moment they were able to share in even before they were born. Keep your head up, and don't sweat the small stuff (like preggo bellies in your pics), at the end of the day, this is a special time in their lives as well and you don't want to take away from that by not offering anything other then support!!

That *****!! I would be a bit mad. You know what? try getting a sheer overlay on the dress and an empire waist line for them...Don't worry. If you get bigger flowers for them, it won't show in the pictures...

If you are worried about the dresses and having to accomodate pregnants with regulars, with some who won't wear straps... would you be open to picking the color and letting the girls pick the dress? This way they'll all be comfortable and you wont have to worry about anyone complaining about the dress you chose...

My sister in law (brothers wife) will be about 7 months pregnant in my wedding, and she found out the day the bridesmaids dresses came in... so she had been having a bit of a problem with figuring out a cost effective, and timely solution, but decided it would be best to order extra fabric to have panels put in.

When she found out she was pregnant she seemed like she didnt really want to 'ruin' the pictures or anything and I told her she was being ridiculous! As the poster above said, I think its awesome that my *first* little niece or nephew will be there when her/his auntie gets married! I'm so psyched about it.

And as my somewhat psycho friend pointed out 'its really cool that as a new life is literally being formed inside your SIL, you and your Fh will be starting a new life too... all this beginning of lives happening at the same time'

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Posted by neener1211

i think it might be cute, don't worry yourself about it...I actually think pregnant bridesmaids are beautiful...

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I think they're cute! I almost had 2 prego bm's, but sister just coceived a few months so my nephew will be born 2 months before my wedding and one of my other bm's is TTC right now. i'm hoping she gets prego soon so she is showing at my wedding.