Pregnant Bridesmaid/Maid of Honor

Who cares!

Actually, I couldn't be more thrilled. My MOH will be 8 months pregnant at my wedding and I am so excited. Just the thought of my future 'neice' or 'nephew' being a part of this special day makes it even more special. I can't wait to show him or her the pictures when they are old enough to tell them that 'You were there to share the day with us'.

I want to have my b-party at a spa day since there will be 3 very pregnant women who are very special to me and I want them to be a part of it.

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Posted by cmc

Ok... for the record, I am not upset that my MOH may be pregnant at the wedding and I would be excited for her. But... Let me clarify the situation... prior to setting my wedding date, she was planning to try to conceive at a time where she would give birth about 2-3 months prior. She specifically requested some time between giving birth and the wedding so she would not be (since she is VERY self conscious). Then, I set the date. After that, she came to me and said, 'well, I changed my mind... I might be 3 months.' I said Ok but again, knowing how she tends to complain about minor ailments, I was concerned that she would be unconfortable, but whatever. Then, she comes to me and says, 'Are you going to kill me, I planning on being six months.' -- I am not concerned about her being pregnant... I was just a little annoyed at the chain of events.

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You shouldn't have changed your date for her - it's a choice for you and FI to make, not anyone elses. However, this is in the past now and there's nothing you can do to change it.

And, it also sounds like she's NOT pregnant yet, so you shouldn't be freaking out right now and worryig about how she'll act b/c you just never know how long it might take someone to conceive.

She has an attitude or is miserable during the planning, then ask her to step down for 'health reasons.'

I would not care at all. I would be so excited for them. As someone else said, you wedding is not as important to anyone else as it is to you and I think it is unfair to expect people to put their lives on hold for your wedding. JMO

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Posted by ChristineAE

IMHO: Who cares!

One cannot expect others to stop their lives for your wedding. It may be the center of your world right now, but not others.

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I agree!

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Posted by stephensvalentine

I agree that it is unfair to expect someone to stop their life for you.

That being said, my FSIL is due 8 days after my wedding. This is my FH's brother's wife (not FH's sister), and she is not in the BP. We picked our date last January and she made it very clear that after her sister's wedding in May they were going to start trying.

I have come to terms with it and am VERY happy for them! I was hurt at first and thought it was a bit selfish (due STRICTLY to the timing) she will be 9 months pregnant at the wedding and if the baby is early she and FBIL (FH's BM) will not be at the wedding. I thought this was unfair to FH and his brother, but hopefully all will workout and they will be there.

So the moral of the story is we need to be happy for those around us, and not forget that they have lives to lead besides our weddings.

And just tell her to plan ahead and not to be 9 months pregnant at the wedding!! That's not too much to ask right??

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My FSIL who i plan on asking to be in my Bridal party (FH and i have some issues and have not done the BP yet) anyway, she planned her invitro implantation procedure for 9 months before our wedding, not a month later or before but 9! She knew of our wedding plans almost 6 months before she scheduled this! I dont mind her being preg or anyone else as 2 others might start trying, just why 9 months when you can control it!.. i just know if the situation was reversed she would be B!tching up a storm!!! You need to know them to understand!!! FH family has ruined/tainted every special thing and holiday since we've been together!!!

I think it's selfish for you to be mad at her and not be happy for her right now...
I think if you turned the tables and have someone tell you that you must wait until August of 2007 (wait another 9 months) to have your wedding because someone was celebrating a joyous moment in their life for one day in November, you wouldn't even consider it.... I'm sorry and I don't mean to be harsh, this is JMHO.