a friend of mine that got married last year...i went out of my way to help her literally from A-Z...her MOH was good for nothing and I was a BM and took care of things for her, and grant it shes happy for me that i'm getting married now, but she doesnt seem to be interested in any details, and this past week shes been ticked at me and cant give me a reason, now i hear its bc she heard something bout me in regards to her, but instead of talking to me abouti it she keeps saying she would if she could but she cant.... so i told her that i'm really hurt that she calls me a friend and cant talk to me about something thats had her obviously ticked at me
she keeps saying to forget about it...but i cant what should i do.
MRSJLK
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You have to tell her exactly how you are feeling about the Bridemaid situation...She also needs to be open and honest about what is bothering her with you. Could it be that she dosen't want to be a bridesmaid so is making something up to make you mad in hopes that you'll change your mind about asking her??
You two need to have a serious discussion (maybe she is embarrassed to tell you a reason why she can't be a BM)
Bebalina
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Hey,
I dont think its that...I'm sure she wants to be part of the wedding, especially since her husband is the best man...she married into my family too...so its a hard situation.
she keeps telling me shes over it, and not to worry...but over what? I'm so confused, I just feel like I can't have the same friendship with her anymore...
JP&EP
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Maybe you should use those exact words and let her know that even though she is over it the situation is still affecting you. Hopefully she'll open up.
Bebalina
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JP&EP- I tried....and she keeps saying shes over and apologizing she can't talk to me...and what drives me me nutss about this, is at this age,,,this stuff is sooo petty!!
JP&EP
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As hard as it seems you are going to have to try and let it go, otherwise it will just make you miserable.
Bebalina
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Posted by JP&EP
As hard as it seems you are going to have to try and let it go, otherwise it will just make you miserable.
i know and i hate it
MRSJLK
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I'm sorry to hear that! It sounds like a sticky situation. Hope it works out for you!! The best thing to do is to be completly honest...Hopefully she'll come around and be the same to you!
Hang in there!!!!
Best of luck!!
Daire
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As hard as it is on you you can't let it overshadow your planning or your day. As you say she's family now and even is she can't act her age then maybe its up to you - ignore it and start enjoying your day again.
