I asked one of my girlfriends that I used to work with to be one of my BM's in January...then I quit my job. Since then we haven't spoken very much and I've only seen her like 3 times. She recently moved out of state, makes no effort to call or stay in touch, and is very cold if I call her to say hi. My other friends are like 'why is this girl in your BP? you have to look at those pics the rest of your life!'
So my question is this...can you politely ask someone to step down and just come as a guest? Keep in mind, she's already bought the dress but left it at my house b/c 'she didnt have the room for it'. Advice please girls.
PS - She recently got engaged. Alot of my friends say she was just jealous at first but she's engaged now too, so what's her problem???
CalJoe0124
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Oh boy, I too have recently had some BM drama and it is so not fun or something I want to deal with. In your situation I may confront your friend one last time as a last resort, talk to her about how you are feeling about her being distant and see what type of repsone you get and if her actions change toward you, etc.. If not then I would say go with your gut, do what you think is right, not what anyone else tells you, if you know deep down after talking to her she won't change or the friendship won't grow and be how it was then I would do yourself a favor and take less stress of of you and ask her to step down.
I hope this helped a little, last week I was dealing with BM drama and all the girls on the boards were sooooo helpful and I was sooo grateful!
MrsStefan
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I was in a similar situation with one of my BMs. I confronted her on it and she ended up not wanting to do it, but she didnt know how to tell me without hurting my feelings. I think that you should talk to her about how you are feeling. Unfortunately, having her step down may end your relationship if she is offended, but it sounds like she isnt that close to you now that you dont work together anymore. I think your other BMs are right, you have to look at your pics for the rest of your life! Its at least worth a conversation
JazzyT
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Ask her if she still wants to be your BM and byher answer you will not need to worry about even inviting her as a guest.
autumn
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Depending on when you are ordering your BM gowns, if you haven't yet, don't bother ordering her's. I know it sounds mean, but it gives you a reason not to bother with her if she doesn't call you
