Programs....Groom's parents deceased....How to handle?

I'm hoping the collective wisdom of this board can help me figure this out...
I'm getting married Friday - yes - in 4 days - and I'm making the programs for the church. Both of FH's parents are deceased. I'This raises two problems for the programs:
(1) Usually you state the bride's parents and groom's parents in the program near where you list the bridal party, etc. What do I do about this? Just mine? His too? None?
(2) At the end of the program, it is customary to thank parents, friends, and family. Of course, we can still thank family, but I'd like to be able to thank my parents - who have been awesome - without making a blunder because his are deceased. Any suggestions?

Thanks - any advice would be great!

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Posted by rtbene2

I'm hoping the collective wisdom of this board can help me figure this out...
I'm getting married Friday - yes - in 4 days - and I'm making the programs for the church. Both of FH's parents are deceased. I'This raises two problems for the programs:
(1) Usually you state the bride's parents and groom's parents in the program near where you list the bridal party, etc. What do I do about this? Just mine? His too? None?
(2) At the end of the program, it is customary to thank parents, friends, and family. Of course, we can still thank family, but I'd like to be able to thank my parents - who have been awesome - without making a blunder because his are deceased. Any suggestions?

Thanks - any advice would be great!

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OK, don't stress. Yes, def include his parents! They're still his parents even though they are not alive. You just say late xx and late xx.

On the back of the program, include a memorial poem or have FH write a couple sentences acknowledging his parents.

My Mom passed away and I would NEVER dream of not including her. She has earned that! On the back you can do something like this...

Although not here in the physical sense, mr x and mrs x, parents of xx (fh) are felt in spirit and in our hearts.

I thought of you with love today but that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday and days before that too,
I think of you in silence I often speak your name
All I have are memories and your picture in a frame
Your memory is my keepsake with which I’ll never part
God has you in His keeping I have you in my heart.

This is what we did:

The Wedding Ceremony Uniting

Brittany Leigh Wood
and
David Michael Travis

July 17, 2010
Bridgeview Yacht Club
Island Park, New York
6:30 PM


The Wedding Party

Parents of the Bride................................... Ms. Hope Warrington
Mr. and Mrs. John Wood, Jr.

Father of the Groom......................................... Mr. Richard Travis

Maid of Honor...................................Kendall Wood
Bridesmaids........................................................................................ Shirley Wood
Pamela Travis
Samantha Somody
Danielle Rourke

Best Man.............................................................................................. James Travis

Groomsmen................................................................................... Samuel Tubiello
Thomas Mandler
Shibu Madhu
Patrick Bond

Officiant...........................................................................Reverend Debra A. Viola

Music............................................................................................Marie Stack Music
The Wedding Ceremony

Processional.....................................................“Canon in D” by Johan Pachelbel
Brides Processional..................................“Con Te Partiro” by Andrea Bocelli
Convocation
Invocation
Reading............................................................................................ Genesis 2:18-24
Address
Reading............................................................................................1 Corinthians 13
Unity Candle Ceremony...........................“Arioso” by Johann Sebastian Bach
Consecration
Vows
Blessing and Exchanging of the Rings
Closing Blessings
Pronouncement........................................Mr. and Mrs. David Michael Travis! Recessional...............................................................“Spring” by Antonio Vivaldi

To our Parents and Siblings:
Thank you for being so supportive of us, and for helping to create this beautiful and special day. Your love, support and guidance is invaluable and immeasurable. We love you more than words can say!
Love, Brittany and Dave

To our Friends and Family:
We would like to thank all of you for being here to share the first day of our new life together, and for travelling from both near and far! We hope you have a great time at our wedding celebration and are looking forward to sharing many more happy occasions with you in the years to come!
Love, Brittany and Dave

In Loving Memory:
With love, we would like to remember those who are here with us in spirit:
Christine Travis, Mother of the Groom
George Warrington, Stepfather of the Bride
James Hudson, Grandfather of the Bride
John Wood, Sr., Grandfather of the Bride
John and Doris Travis, Grandparents of the Groom
Russell and Margaret Johnson, Grandparents of the Groom


Where you put parents of the bride and parents of the groom you could even do:

Parents of the Groom......... The Late Mr. and Mrs. Smith

I would still list his parents right under where you list your parents. Living or not they're still his parents. I would write..

Grooms name - the late Mr. & Mrs. ____

Do a thank you page but maybe also do a rememberence page for his parents.

we have the issue that both of our dad's are deceased so what we chose to do is

Mrs. Jane & the late Mr. John Doe

I know the Mr. is usually first but putting the 'late' before it made it seem like both of them had passed ...

you can always put..

Grooms Parents
The late Mr. & Mrs.... so and so

Then on the Thank you page put a section

To those who can't be with us today...

then write a small thing to all people who are no longer living then I put

Especially
Mr. & Mrs... so and so

Fh's mom has passed and we put this on the Thank you page.