Proper invitation etiquite

snowprincess805 Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:03 PM

Proper invitation etiquite

my parents are payig for the whole wedding - Fh's parents are only paying for the RD

Should it be
1 Mr. and Mrs. my parents
request you honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
my name (first middle)
to
Fh (first middle last)

2 Mr. and Mrs. my parents
request you honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
my name (first middle)
to
Fh (first middle)
son of Mr and Mrs. his parents

Sonicstef Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:05 PM

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I think both wording indicates the same thing: that your parents are issuing the invitation and hosting the event.

coxmandi Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:07 PM

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Choice 1 is the most traditional.

We're going for Choice 2, (we're in the same situation, my parents are paying for everything but the RD). We liked the idea of joining two families together. (we all get along well)

sophie78 Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:12 PM

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Its up to you and your parents. From the invite, it is clear who is hosting (paying) for the party. Some people put the groom's parents too to be nice. We did not put it. Since they did not pay for the wedding and were not involved in the planning, it was unnecessary. I think they would have liked to be on the invite, but DH did not think it was necessary.

melissaandsean Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:24 PM

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Posted by coxmandi

Choice 1 is the most traditional.

We're going for Choice 2, (we're in the same situation, my parents are paying for everything but the RD). We liked the idea of joining two families together. (we all get along well)

same here.

What-Now Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:36 PM

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Posted by melissaandsean

Posted by coxmandi

Choice 1 is the most traditional.

We're going for Choice 2, (we're in the same situation, my parents are paying for everything but the RD). We liked the idea of joining two families together. (we all get along well)

same here.

Same here as well! I though it would be nice to mention both parents.

o17range Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:52 PM

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As the other girls mentioned--its very obvious that YOUR parents are hosting the event. We did 'son of' because my family and his have a good relationship.

jeanla4c Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:53 PM

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We are doing choice 1, traditionalist at heart here! (and FI's parents are just paying for RD)

MrsJ Posted: Mar 03, 2005 01:54 PM

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Out of respect for FI and his family I would do #2.

I was in the same position as you ...

Sonicstef Posted: Mar 03, 2005 02:01 PM

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Im not sure but I think #2 is probably the more traditional wording.

Also, you can host an event without paying for it. Many couples put their parents name on the invitation and do not receive a penny from them.

Honestly, I think etiquette rules are mostly out the window for modern weddings. Every family is different and you should pick what works for you and your family.

RVCBride Posted: Mar 03, 2005 03:06 PM

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I am in the same exact boat as am470. My FH's parents are not involved financially. So with that being said I am planning on not putting them down on invite. I ran this by FH and he had no opposition to this.

cjik Posted: Mar 03, 2005 03:20 PM

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I guess this is one of the few pluses of paying for the wedding yourselves--no issues with names. None of our parents will be listed, since we're paying.

shawl Posted: Mar 03, 2005 04:01 PM

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We did choice 2 (and my parents paid for the wedding), in part so that friends of my husband's parents would know why they were being invited to the wedding!

cloddy Posted: Mar 03, 2005 04:08 PM

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Number 2 is the traditional wording for an invitation and mentioning his parents simply indicates what family he comes from. The names that precede 'request the honor of your presence' indicate who is hosting the affair and since it is customary for the Groom's Family to host the rehearsal dinnner, you are not required provide any additional acknowledgement. You may, however, wish to issue the RD invite in their name to acknowledge that they are hosting it.