Pushy MOH invited her brother to my wedding!!!

Hi All,

I just need to vent...I have a very pushy MOH!!! She assumes that just because she is my MOH, I am going to be inviting her whole family to all of my wedding related events.

First it happened with the engagement party, when she told me before our invites went out that her parents would be offended if they didn't get invited to the engagement party. Then, me and FH decided that we just wanted immediate family members and the bridal party to be invited, so I had to tell MOH that her parents would not be getting an invite to the engagement party, but they would be invited to the wedding.

Then, yesterday MOH mentioned how her brother is so excited to come to my wedding! She invited him (and I was not planning on doing so). My wedding is not until May 2006! Why is she handing out verbal invites to people? What is wrong with her???

What should I do? And has this ever happened to anyone else?

THANKS!!!!

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If she's your MOH you should be close enough to tell her, 'stop inviting people to my wedding!!' Explain to her that you haven't made a definite list yet and until then it would be best if she didn't give anyone the impression they were invited.
She is probably just really excited about your wedding and doesn't realize what she is doing is rude.

Re: Pushy MOH invited her brother to my wedding!!!

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Posted by 2006bride

Hi All,

I just need to vent...I have a very pushy MOH!!! She assumes that just because she is my MOH, I am going to be inviting her whole family to all of my wedding related events.

First it happened with the engagement party, when she told me before our invites went out that her parents would be offended if they didn't get invited to the engagement party. Then, me and FH decided that we just wanted immediate family members and the bridal party to be invited, so I had to tell MOH that her parents would not be getting an invite to the engagement party, but they would be invited to the wedding.

Then, yesterday MOH mentioned how her brother is so excited to come to my wedding! She invited him (and I was not planning on doing so). My wedding is not until May 2006! Why is she handing out verbal invites to people? What is wrong with her???

What should I do? And has this ever happened to anyone else?

THANKS!!!!

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how rude! before she invites anyone else i would say, you know we havent done the guest list yet and still need to figure out how many people we want there etc...

IMO you might need to think about having her as MOH. you have another year and a half to go w all sorts of decisions to be made and you dont want her pushing all of her opinions on you. its enough stress w/o having to deal w that.

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Listen - there will be more issues with the MOH than probably with any other member of your BP. Somehow, 'closeness' makes them think they have certain privileges when it comes to your wedding. If you don't reign her in now, things will get out of hand later (and the relationship may also suffer).

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I'm not going to be much help! I have the same problems...plus my MOH pretty much expects me to pay for everything (hair, make up, dress, hotel, etc.)

I was getting so worked up that the thought of her disgusted me. That's not a good feeling. So I called her and pretty much explained how I felt and why certain things can't be done her way, and asked that she try to understand. She seemed receptive and claimed it was a 'misunderstanding.' We'll see!!

Good luck! YOu're friends - talk it out! Don't let resentment ruin your friendship.

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Although I would be a little upset that she is verbally inviting people to YOUR wedding, in a way I would be kind of excited that these people are so excited for you and want to share in your special day. Ultimately the decision of who to invite will be up to you and when it comes time to do the guest list, if you are unable to afford them or have too many people, you MOH will just have to deal with them not being invited and feel dumb for opening her mouth!!