***QOTD 12/23/13***

I just want to thank cconaty94 for choosing me for botw. Sorry I am posting at an odd hour but just wanted to make sure there's a question up earlier enough. I hope I don't repeat to much.

So with our year rapidly approaching what has caused the most time anxiety (days out from the big day) with your planning process?

Now that we are 10 months out I am starting to do the little time panic to get everything done. What caused the biggest was 2 friends getting married after me they have their dresses already and I have not ordered mine yet in the aftermath of thebpanic I have been making lists like crazy.

Ps still haven't ordered my dress.

Quite a few panicky moments lol. Mostly over money.. Just want to make sure we will have enough to pay for everything we booked, possibly a honeymoon, and possibly enough to cover if either of our parents have trouble covering what they said they would. Its been hard financially for everyone this year.

The rest of my anxiety comes from having to ask something of other people. Ordering bridesmaids dresses was such a stress bc two of my girls are in college, one is a single mother with a baby, and my sister is currently pregnant and just bought a house. How could I demand $150+ of them at any point? It was taken care of, but yes, anxiety.

I'm starting to worry about our guest list!
We have to make cuts and I feel bad because I think there are people who thought they were being invited and now they're not because we haven't kept in touch in the last year. I just feel like it's such an important day and if I could invite the whole world I would, but we can't so I want to make sure the people who are in attendance are the closest people in our lives.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

FILs are really causing me the most anxiety. it's sad.

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Same!! They've been horrible!

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Posted by dariamarie2

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Posted by guitarstikibars

FILs are really causing me the most anxiety. it's sad.

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Same!! They've been horrible!

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it's really amazing how people behave ...

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Posted by dariamarie2

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Posted by guitarstikibars

FILs are really causing me the most anxiety. it's sad.

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Same!! They've been horrible!

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FH's family has been a bit of a stressful adventure. luckily, FMIL and FFIL are really great and suppportive.

Im most anxious about the money. We reviewed where we wanted to be and how far we need to go and its been challenging to get everything to match up. Definitely really difficult to save the way we planned while still paying rent, bills, student loans, and eating. Its getting a littleeee scary.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

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Posted by dariamarie2

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Posted by guitarstikibars

FILs are really causing me the most anxiety. it's sad.

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Same!! They've been horrible!

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it's really amazing how people behave ...

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You wouldn't believe the stories! FM me if you ever need to vent about them! lol

my dad's coworkers & friends all don't understand how a rsvp works. it was the 8th BTW. they keep saying give me some time meanwhile I have to figure out how many menus, our placecards how many, how many tables we need (cause then we need more flowers) and all this stuff. they just keep oh give us time..... it's like 20 people. very annoying and of course makes me anxious since so much is up in the air. THEN.....

FMIL keeps wanting special memorial stuff to her husband aka FH's father who died last year. my brother died years ago also but I don't think our wedding is the time to have memorials for people. like I don't want montages dedicated to people who died or a special ceremony for them complete with lighting candles for them. I want a happy fun day. and she goes on & on to FH which makes him feel bad then makes me look like the bad guy because I keep saying NO.

also his cousin died like 2 years ago and FMIL wants a thing to her also. my bff died years ago too, so did my stepgrandpa. I was like lets just have a whole wedding dedicated to every person who has ever died.... people die. I don't see why a wedding has to turn into something for them or every person we've ever known who died. all I did was get 2 candles to have like for show & maybe lit (not by us) somewhere at the wedding and FMIL is trying to turn it into a huge shrine. or a big production where everyone says words & we light candles. NONE OF WHICH I WANT.

I want a fun happy day. all about ME and FH. not all the people we know who died over the years.

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Posted by Diorprincess

my dad's coworkers & friends all don't understand how a rsvp works. it was the 8th BTW. they keep saying give me some time meanwhile I have to figure out how many menus, our placecards how many, how many tables we need (cause then we need more flowers) and all this stuff. they just keep oh give us time..... it's like 20 people. very annoying and of course makes me anxious since so much is up in the air. THEN.....

FMIL keeps wanting special memorial stuff to her husband aka FH's father who died last year. my brother died years ago also but I don't think our wedding is the time to have memorials for people. like I don't want montages dedicated to people who died or a special ceremony for them complete with lighting candles for them. I want a happy fun day. and she goes on & on to FH which makes him feel bad then makes me look like the bad guy because I keep saying NO.

also his cousin died like 2 years ago and FMIL wants a thing to her also. my bff died years ago too, so did my stepgrandpa. I was like lets just have a whole wedding dedicated to every person who has ever died.... people die. I don't see why a wedding has to turn into something for them or every person we've ever known who died. all I did was get 2 candles to have like for show & maybe lit (not by us) somewhere at the wedding and FMIL is trying to turn it into a huge shrine. or a big production where everyone says words & we light candles. NONE OF WHICH I WANT.

I want a fun happy day. all about ME and FH. not all the people we know who died over the years.

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even thinking of all that stuff now has me anxious lol. I think in laws should just butt out of wedding business.

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Posted by dariamarie2

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Posted by guitarstikibars

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Posted by dariamarie2

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Posted by guitarstikibars

FILs are really causing me the most anxiety. it's sad.

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Same!! They've been horrible!

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it's really amazing how people behave ...

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You wouldn't believe the stories! FM me if you ever need to vent about them! lol

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I'm pretty sure I have you girls beat, not that it's a contest. If it was, it's not one I want to win, lol. My FMIL (and two FSIL who are 17) lives with us. I contemplate murder/suicide daily. Just kidding. Kind of...

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Posted by Alimm729


I'm pretty sure I have you girls beat, not that it's a contest. If it was, it's not one I want to win, lol. My FMIL (and two FSIL who are 17) lives with us. I contemplate murder/suicide daily. Just kidding. Kind of...

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sorry to say it but ... you win!

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Posted by dariamarie2

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Posted by Alimm729


I'm pretty sure I have you girls beat, not that it's a contest. If it was, it's not one I want to win, lol. My FMIL (and two FSIL who are 17) lives with us. I contemplate murder/suicide daily. Just kidding. Kind of...

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sorry to say it but ... you win!

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LOL ... ugh. i am just constantly treated as a second class citizen so to speak ... i'm not liked or welcomed and for what reason, i'm really unsure. i've done nothing!

When I was BOTW I always posted early too haha no worries.

I'm 10 months away too (as of Christmas Day) and I would say the one thing giving me anxiety for this whole past month is booking our flights for Hawaii. They already released it for next fall and I don't want the prices rising by the time we're ready financially to buy them! (FH doesn't want to charge it, lame, lol).He wanted to wait until after Christmas to buy them.

I can completely understand we are in the same boat with money. We definitely are behind from where we wanted to be 10 months out.

We haven't even figured out honeymoon yet cause we don't know if we can really afford it or not but I definitely wanted to have it booked already for the same reason.

Its certainly not a unique answer in any way, but (with 61 days left until wedding day), finances are the biggest stressor. We are doing what we can to keep costs down while still having the wedding we want. So, Hawaii has been changed to the Riviera Maya....raw bar AND viennese hour has been downgraded to just raw bar.....wedding programs are a not a necessity....and I am saving my spa gift certificates/money that I just received as birthday gifts, to be used the week of the wedding. No mani/pedis for me until Feb.
No doubt about it....we will be opening wedding envelopes day of for vendor, maitre d', and bridal attendant tips