I get along great with my FIL'S. FMIL Loves me because Im the daughter she never had. Sooooo now I have 2 moms just what I need LOL. When it come's to the wedding seems like she has a whole mouthful to say/request. IDK if she's comfortable with me or what but I feel like if you're not paying for my wedding you should not be imposing your opinion on me. I have no problem with constructive criticism or you giving me your opinion when I ask for it. If you make it clear that your are not giving a penny when we didn't even ask , then I don't think you should be requesting much LOL .
Do your FH'S family like you? How much involvement do or will family members or parents have in decision making as far as the wedding goes?
WeezyGirl2354
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FH's family loves me lol ok, that may sound a little selfabsorbed but according to him and his sister I am in like no other LOL.
They stay out of the wedding planning a little bit - overall they do - but they are involved b/c they are helping pay for things. So FH and I do the leg work then I prep him for how to present our findings to his parents and he does the presentation lol. So far so good!
They are alos hosting the e-party so they have been handling that but have been really great in involving me and asking for my input which I really appreciate.
So far so good (knock on wood) that dynamics between everyone has been smooth sailing. Let's hope it stays that way lol.
FutureJOC
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FIL's and I get along great. Hell, there are even times where I have gone over to FIL's house without FH and I am there for hours just hanging, talking and having tea with FMIL. They are the type of people though to voice their opinions and not afraid to hold back, which sometimes I think its great and other times I think they should hold back a little. But overall, I have no problems. For the most part, some of the things they say that to an outsider would seem rude or going a little too far, it actually makes me laugh b/c I love how much they just don't care sometimes and say what's on their minds.
Case in point, FMIL told both me and FSIL that 'You guys are really skinny on top, you just got bis a$$es. You got do some more running'. I could not do anything else but laugh and mind you she said this in front of FFIL, FSIL's BF and in the middle of a diner LOL. Oh, you gotta love 'um.
As far as the wedding is concerned, I know that both FMIL and FFIL are going to have their opinions and they are more than happy to share them, but in the end, it's me and FH's $$ that's being spent and we are going to make the final decision on how we spend it and where we spend it regarding the wedding. At this point in our dicussions with them regarding the wedding and our plans for it, we haven't run into any areas in which we are in disagreement so I guess that's a good sign.
Mrsluv2be
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Fh's family loves me. No one has any input in our weddding because we are paying for it ourselves. We welcome ideas though, but the buck stops there.
Im getting Married
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FH's family & I all get along great
No they will have no say in the wedding..his parents are very quiet people to begin with plus we are paying for the entire thing ourselves so the only opinion we need is our own
Corinne Ann
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I think they like me! I know FSIL does! LOL... i think his mom has issues with me 'taking' her son but i think in general she likes me.....
they said they wanted to help pay for things for the wedding but havent really offered much... they are paying for the invitations and i think FMIL thought we were going to go to a store and pic them out of a book but i am having them made from a vendor on etsy - i think she was a little disappointed with that! She mentioned wanting to come dress shopping but my mom said no way thats just me and her.... shes paying so thats her law... lol.. i think id like it to be just me and her until i find MY dress too!!! then FMIL can come to 1st fitting!
kimmaymb20
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My FIL's LOVE me the best was on Christmas when FH was kidding around and FSIL said if you ever left Kim we'd keep her instead of you Dave I get along great with them although I think FMIL is a little weird sometimes. They are actually at the moment giving us more then my parents by paying for the photo/video. Neither of our parents have had a say in any of the wedding plans since we are paying for 98%. We just decide on vendors and then share it with them afterwards.
EDT forgot to add that I already call them mom, dad and sister because they will be forever after we are married my 2nd family.
chelley720
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FIL's love me too!! They always say how Im the best thing that ever happened to FH!!! When it comes to them getting involved in the wedding they all have their opinions. Its hard to get everyones opinion because their all so different. I mostly ask my mom for hers we live together and like the same things so its easier to just ask her then tell everyone else when its set in stone!!!
futuremrsetch
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My FH's family and I get along very well. His parents live in Georgia so there really isnt too much direct involvemnet but we always bounce ideas off of our parents but while we will take their opinions in to consideration ultimately it is our decision and both of our parents respect that which is good. Other family memebers- well now that is a whole other question lol....
laulee27
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My FIL's love me. My FMIL always tells me she is so happy FH has found me and that I'm perfect for her son. Her and my FFIL are both amazing. They are going to help pay for some of the wedding (they pretty much said they plan on saving a certin amount and we can just use it for whatever). They are very laid back people so we will get our ideas together and then go over their house and kind of show them everything we have so far and they give some imput. FH also has two sisters that are my age (I'm 5 years younger than him). They are also both amazing. They are so excited for us. We go out with them and their boyfriends a lot...it's pretty much like we're all friends. I can not wait to be a part of this family and I really feel excepted by them all.
