Brides Helping Brides ™ - Q.O.T.D - 3/8/12

Karrie D Posted: Mar 08, 2012 10:14 AM

Q.O.T.D - 3/8/12

What if any tension has planning your wedding caused between you and your FH or anyone for that matter?

In my case my husband has a problem with constantly reminding what the budget is and he mirco-manages every penny I spend. It frustrates me bc I know we are on a budget and would never really exceed it just for one day. Things like this have caused some bickering and I feel like it is taking away from a happy time.

Bride2Be78 Posted: Mar 08, 2012 10:29 AM

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I think the most stressful part for me has been planning the details of my bridal shower and bachelorette party w/ my bridal party. It always comes down to money unfortunately.

I'm sure as it gets closer FH & I will start bickering over money. So far we have been pretty good except for our flower quote fiasco LOL

pjt212301 Posted: Mar 08, 2012 10:38 AM

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The biggest stress in our planning has not been about the wedding but instead about the night before planning. Our wedding is on a Sunday afternoon and we have a lot of OOT guests and I really feel like we should do something for them as well as the bridal party on Saturday night. FH feels like we're feeding everyone the next day(we're paying for our own wedding)and if I want to do something the night before it should be casual and easy at the clubhouse where we live. I feel like we're the guests of honor and I don't want to have to worry about cleaning up and stressing the night before...UGH!!

futuremorasse Posted: Mar 08, 2012 11:11 AM

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The biggest stress comes from my FH not wanting to be involved and then after I pick things out he magically cares and fights me about why I chose it. And it isn't like he cares about my choice and doesn't like it he just wants to know exactly why I went with what I did. Other than that nothing! Its been pretty smooth ride with us, which is nice especially with our wedding coming up so fast.

tara5533 Posted: Mar 08, 2012 12:55 PM

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What if any tension has planning your wedding caused between you and your FH or anyone for that matter?

In my case my husband has a problem with constantly reminding what the budget is and he mirco-manages every penny I spend. It frustrates me bc I know we are on a budget and would never really exceed it just for one day. Things like this have caused some bickering and I feel like it is taking away from a happy time.
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I FEEL THE SAME WAY HE MICRO MANGES EVERYTHING I SPEND HE HAS BEEN A LITTLE BETTER BUT STILL ANNOYING

Gin-Char 104 Posted: Mar 08, 2012 05:04 PM

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Posted by tara5533

What if any tension has planning your wedding caused between you and your FH or anyone for that matter?

In my case my husband has a problem with constantly reminding what the budget is and he mirco-manages every penny I spend. It frustrates me bc I know we are on a budget and would never really exceed it just for one day. Things like this have caused some bickering and I feel like it is taking away from a happy time.
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I FEEL THE SAME WAY HE MICRO MANGES EVERYTHING I SPEND HE HAS BEEN A LITTLE BETTER BUT STILL ANNOYING

I feel bad, I am that person who reminds my FH of the budget....and I recognize where it is coming from, FEAR, that we will not be able to pay at the end. I feel if I remind him, maybe he will feel what I feel. After reading these posts....imma just gonna have a sit down and take his cads...LOL, no I am going to talk with him and figure out a back up plan.

Bride2012 Posted: Mar 08, 2012 05:05 PM

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Posted by Karrie D

What if any tension has planning your wedding caused between you and your FH or anyone for that matter?

Our parents on both sides have caused a lot of stress for us. He has been great about everything. However, I have not. I almost called off the wedding due to the drama and stress. I ordinally wanted to get eloped and he wanted the big wedding so we compromised on a medium size wedding. Everyone has an opinion and is not afraid to voice it! We also agrue because I am having his sisters as my bridesmaids and I seem to not do anything right. Like I would like them to get there hair and make-up done but am not paying for it and has become an issue. Even the dress. I say that those are the only things I expect of them and I am upfront with the costs and if they can't handle or do it I will understand if they tell me now not a week before my wedding.....okay sorry totally unloaded!