QOTD 5-18-2010

It is sooo hard to come up with questions

I was actually thinking about this when I was walking to work.. Last week I had a horrible week- a lot of bad things happened and I was so glad that I have FH supporting me.

How did you figure out that your boyfriend is the one for you and that you want to spent the rest of your life with him? This is before engagement!!

2 years ago we went on vacation to Europe and we had a lot of fun-just relaxing and not worrying about anything. However, I got a call from my mom that my father had a serious accident and the doctors might amputate his arm. I felt apart but my boyfriend (now my FH) stood by me. This is when I knew that I cannot live with out him and he proposed to me 6 months later.

Tell us your story!!

Aga

This may sound strange, but FH and I started dateing November and in early March of the next year I had my breast augmentation. Before that, he didn't really do much to help when he was at my apartment (I guess he felt weird). But after that I was not allowed to lift ANYTHING for a month, could not take out the garbage, vacuum, could not wash or dry my hair for atleast 5 days cause it as so painful. He washed and dried my hair (didn't look great, but it was awesome), brought me food, helped me move around and clean, etc. especially the first week or 2, and has been taking out the garbage ever since!

It brought out this whole other side of him and its been here to stay ever since! I saw that under his tough guy attitude there was this compassionate loving person!

Seriously, it was right away for both us. He told me after we were engaged that he knew the first night we went on a date we were going to get married. I knew really soon too. Our first date was amazing. 8 hours and we just were sooo comfortable talking to each other and it felt like I knew him forever.

I remember like the after the 2nd, or 3rd, or 4th date (sometime early on) singing 'Today I met the boy I'm going to Marry' in the shower and thinking of Dino. hahahah sooo cheesy. We were seriously just made for each other. So lucky!

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Posted by FutureCap

This may sound strange, but FH and I started dateing November and in early March of the next year I had my breast augmentation. Before that, he didn't really do much to help when he was at my apartment (I guess he felt weird). But after that I was not allowed to lift ANYTHING for a month, could not take out the garbage, vacuum, could not wash or dry my hair for atleast 5 days cause it as so painful. He washed and dried my hair (didn't look great, but it was awesome), brought me food, helped me move around and clean, etc. especially the first week or 2, and has been taking out the garbage ever since!

It brought out this whole other side of him and its been here to stay ever since! I saw that under his tough guy attitude there was this compassionate loving person!

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awwww. love this!!

There was no one moment that made me realize .. We started out as friends (w/benefits) and just built this amazing friendship/relationship. He has always been there for me no matter what. He will sit up with me and listen to me and give me advice about anything and everything ... Hes an incredible listener and hes so sweet and thoughtful. It was just time spent with him that made me realize this is the person that I dont want to spend one minute without .. Hes is my best friend. Hes one of a kind and Im lucky to have him ...

Mushy I know, but its all true

DH was my best friend for 3 years before we started dating... And those 3 years were actually the worst 3 years of my life because of some things going on in my life at the time. DH hardly knew me but for some reason, he was there for me as a friend, which is what made our friendship grow. My friends of 10 years weren't even there for me like he was, yet I knew him for just a month or two when I was going through these rough times. When my grandmother passed away, I was a wreck because she lived with us my whole life and practically raised me. He went to her wakes with me and brought me out to dinner afterward and stayed with me. I found out later that he hadn't been to a wake since his own mother died a few years earlier, so I can't even imagine how hard it was for him.

Over the years, he always went above and beyond what everyone else would do for me. If he didn't like something I was doing, he would voice his opinion but he wouldn't leave my side. He never abandoned me like other friends would. He was patient with me and made me laugh until my sides hurt. We just had a friendship like no other I've ever had in my life, and that's how I knew. We still always say that we're best friends before anything else.

I told FH on our thrid date he was going to marry me. (it kind of slipped out). He didn't freak out which was good. But I knew on our first date, that it was the last first date I'd ever go on.
The thing that cemented that feeling was 1 yr into the relationship. I was at his house and fell down the stairs and ended up breaking my shoulder and upper arm really bad. I had not officially moved in with him at this point, but after we left the e.r. my parents were like well are you coming home with us or Mario? And he was like you have to come home with me. SO I did. And he took such good care of me. I literally couldn't even sit up by myself, the pain was so intense. I couldn't sleep much cause of the pain, sometimes I would just lay there and whimper. And he would stay awake with me trying to do whatever he could do to make me more comfortable. He helped me deal with the possibility of losing most use of my arm, and of losing a career that I loved. He was the first person I saw when i woke up from both surgeries, and he came with me to every physical therapy appointment for over 6 months and held my (good) hand through the torture. He kept pushing me to try harder and he is the reason I have gotten back most use of my arm (and defied the dr's predictions!).
After seeing me at my lowest, and loving me anyway, I just knew he was the one. They say relationships get tested when bad things happen, you see how people react to the situations. Well he passed the test. If our relationship could get through all that, I think we can do anything.

I knew the second I met him in person. When we were talking online I knew he was someone special, I knew I was in love with him before I met him...but the feeling I had when I was with him trumped any other feeling I'd ever had before.

I guess what sealed it was our second visit...I went to Ohio for Memorial Day weekend and the whole weekend it was he and I and FSD and we felt like this perfect little family...that's when I came home and told my mom I was going to marry him.

about 1 month into our relationship I needed to have minor surgery. It was nothing major (as far as life threatening) but to me it was HUGE deal. I was in a 'transitional' stage in my life so I was living in my father & step moms house. I chose not to tell them about the surgery, my brother passed away a few yrs b/f and I didnt want add any more worry into their lives. So my parents went out of state for a few months and I had the surgery. FH took me there and then brought me back to his apartment to recover. He had no attachment to me and didnt have to be involved. I had never in my life had a boy friend take care of me that way. That was the first thing that made me realize he was 'the one'. The second thing happened a few weeks later, I was staying @ FH's house one night and he started talking about my brother. Nothing major just saying things like, 'Oh Joe would feel this way about a situation....' & saying what he thought about the type of man he was. So I was floored b/c it was like he knew my brother but they had never met. So I looked at him crying and asked How do you know so much about him? and he said...b/c you told me, I always listen when you talk about your brother.

I love this man!!!!!