This question is important to me because I have had some interesting experiences with friends since being engaged...
Since you have got engaged have you seen 'true colors' of friends, or realized who is supportive and who is not?
I never realized how unsupportive a few of my friends have been, meanwhile I was around when someone needed me at the drop of a hat..i have some that NEVER ask me about it, my cousin saw me and finally two hours later that my ring wasn't gaudy(that's all she had to say about it). well my FH was sick and we couldn't make a BBQ yesturday. I wasn't going to leave and one friend said'hes a big boy you don't have to do everything together'. really?
ndc923
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Absolutely! Unfortunately I've even seen it with some family members. I just try not to let it get to me.
rcotter90
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I think that since my wedding is so far away and we were engaged 6 months before picking a date, I haven't seen any nastiness yet. I'm sure it'll come as we get closer though
Kimberley2015
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Unfortunately I experienced that right after I got engaged. As a matter of fact, someone who I thought was my best friend, sister, etc. and be by my side on such a special day to me has been non-exsitant. I have not even seen her since our engagement. I understand that she was going through a rough patch in her life however I was there for her and always have been. I am not going to lie, it hurts and I catch myself from time to time a little taken back by how she has just stopped all contact. However at the end of the day I know things happen for a reason and I rather be surrounded by those that are genuinely happy for me and want to be a part of my special day then just fake it. Unfortunately we can not expect those to treat us the way we would treat them.
Amanda2022
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It is really sad when things like this happen... I never understood why I would hear such crazy stories about families and friends getting into fights after getting engaged and always said that will never happen to me....well it did! Lol...I don't get it. Weddings can bring out the worst in people.
Holly87
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I have to say i'm pretty lucky with my friends and family everyone is very supportive and nice. I just have one friend who is kinda picky about certain things but, i just brush it off.
DebOst
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I had this with a friend after she got engaged not me. I was her bridemaid. We were bestfriends since high school. When she got engaged I just started dating FH again and she didn't like him. Around that time she also landed an awesome new job but her hours changed drastically, we didn't see each other much. She blamed it on me being jealous of her getting married which was the furthest thing from the truth. Our schedules didn't match up. When we were able to make plans she would cancel on me. It got to the point where she would text me letting me know she didn't want to tell me she had to cancel again but would continue to do so. Throughout the planning process I made myself as available as possible for her. Whatever she asked I did. But it was a huge snowball effect after that. Her bachelorette was a disaster. I was in grad school and was going to skip class to go but at the beginning of the semester found out I had a test that night. I told her I would go to AC right after I wouldn't get in too late. She understood (or so I thought) and said she would wait and drive down with me. Day of she said she wanted to go earlier. Got mad that when I got to AC and she was in a show I went and had a drink with my MOH's husband (he was there for a conference) but they were still in the show and would catch up with them when they got out. After we got back it seemed that everything I did was wrong. I am still trying to figure out how she perceived that whole time period. It is sad we don't speak anymore. She is invited to my wedding because I felt obligated to. It sucks what happens.
And when I got engaged (almost 8 months ago now) don't ever ask me how planning is going or if I need any help. It is sad, but that is who they are. They are my family and I cant change that. Just going with the flow.... Hugs and kisses sorry friends are a**h****. True colors really do come out and we find out who are close buddies are.
