What is the one thing you changed about yourself (positive change that you ended up liking) when you met your FH/Dh?
Mine was taking out all piercings, but 3 holes in each ear. I knew deep down he didn't like it, but wouldn't tell me. I also stopped dressing like I hung out at the smithhaven mall on a friday night (if any of you don't know that, I stopped dressing like a freak).
soontobecruz
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I 'grew up'... I was forced too. When my FH was in a very bad car accident my life turned upside down. I found strength within myself I didn't know was there.
I learned what was really important and if I couldn't make it out with my friends partying on a Friday night bc I was in NYC at his bed side, that it was okay. In fact it was where I wanted to be.
Good question
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Posted by soontobecruz
I 'grew up'... I was forced too. When my FH was in a very bad car accident my life turned upside down. I found strength within myself I didn't know was there.
I learned what was really important and if I couldn't make it out with my friends partying on a Friday night bc I was in NYC at his bed side, that it was okay. In fact it was where I wanted to be.
Good question
Have you ever had a friend tell you they don't like this new you because of him? I lost a lot of friends because of my sudden change (not just appearance, but my attitude change and i became more organized and alert). I realized after a while that they were never friends, they were moochers, liars, and will always be stuck where they are. I don't look at it as my FH made me loose friends.
AugustBride20000
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I learned to relax and be myself more.
dctead
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I learned to say No to my family more... (which is a good thing.. no longer the door mat.. )
and I learned to stop caring what everyone else thinks... if its good for he and I.. then that's all that matters.
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I learned that I am perfect just the way I am. No more trying to live up to anyone else's standards.
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He got me to drink wine hahaha...just kidding but that is true...
I think it is that I realized that I could be my own person and still in a relationship. I was never able to do that prior and FH really brought out the best in me. I grew so much in the 3 years we have been dating.
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Posted by soontobecruz
I 'grew up'... I was forced too. When my FH was in a very bad car accident my life turned upside down. I found strength within myself I didn't know was there.
I learned what was really important and if I couldn't make it out with my friends partying on a Friday night bc I was in NYC at his bed side, that it was okay. In fact it was where I wanted to be.
Good question
Have you ever had a friend tell you they don't like this new you because of him? I lost a lot of friends because of my sudden change (not just appearance, but my attitude change and i became more organized and alert). I realized after a while that they were never friends, they were moochers, liars, and will always be stuck where they are. I don't look at it as my FH made me loose friends.
I lost some friends but I wouldn't say for this reason. Well maybe 1 person but she was toxic and I am much happier without her in my life. I wouldn't say they were never friends I would say they were selfish, and unsympathetic to the given situation. The one's who stuck by my through and through those are my 'real' friends
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Posted by PrincessKathie
I learned to relax and be myself more.
Same here. I learned how to have a sense of humor and not take everything so seriously.
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i definitely learned to love myself more. i'm really big on the self deprication and he told me that it hurt him when i would put myself down because he loved me so much, so why did i have to be so hard on myself...
and so i'm learning to lighten up, and love myself, and give myself the credit that i deserve.
and eat sushi! looooove sushi now as a result of him!
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I was just thinking about this the other day. I don't think I really CHANGED, I think I'm still the same person, but DH brings out the best in me.
My ex-b/f and I had a volatile relationship. He brought out my mean streak, encouraged me to shirk my responsibilities, and was just overall a negative influence.
The difference with DH is like night and day! He brings out the best in me, even my mom tells me this. He makes me want to be more responsible, he brings out my fun side, encourages me to try new things, and just makes me so happy it's ridonkulous.
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Posted by jilliibabii
I was just thinking about this the other day. I don't think I really CHANGED, I think I'm still the same person, but DH brings out the best in me.
My ex-b/f and I had a volatile relationship. He brought out my mean streak, encouraged me to shirk my responsibilities, and was just overall a negative influence.
The difference with DH is like night and day! He brings out the best in me, even my mom tells me this. He makes me want to be more responsible, he brings out my fun side, encourages me to try new things, and just makes me so happy it's ridonkulous.
yea my ex made me feel like a child, my FH makes me feel like an adult. lol.
