booo to waking up to it so dark and raining after it's been so sunny. so this brings me to my question:
Have you noticed a change in friendships with your lady friends after you got engaged? Have you gotten more distant, closer, or nothing has changed at all?
barbtony
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Nothing has changed at all - yet.
T E R I
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I don't have this problem, because all my friends are guys-and i kind of just hang out with them every so often so it doesn't really matter, except for my best friend-we have been friends since kindergarten and she is married has 1 kid and pregnant with her second, so i don't have to worry
amandah75
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Nothing has really changed I guess. Just a lot of excitement.
MrsL2010
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nothing has changed....all my friends are excited for a wedding....one of my best friends is excited because she is getting married the month after me and said we can do everything together.
christine2010
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i have noticed alot of changes, some of my 'friends' really don't bother with me anymore because they feel that i am too busy & that i am saving all my money so they don't include me when they go out anymore. my already married friends however, are constantly calling me to find out how i am & asking if i need help with anything. my friends who are planning a wedding for 2010, have now become my closest friends since we have such a big part of our life as something in common.
JoanneAndJustin
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Some of my friends have changed... Nothing too noticeable but you would think I was planning the wedding of the century. So, I've learned not to talk about it in front of those friends.
Alyssa79
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I also have some that don't bother with me now. I never talk about my plans (and I really didn't have anything up until last night) unless they asked. I''m not one to boast or rub in anyone's faces. Plus i'm the ONLY one that is engaged within any of my friends.
I especially noticed the hugest change with 2 girls from work. We've basically been inseperable for a year and once I did get engaged, they never ask me to hang out or even go to lunch anymore. They're both single and they have that in common so i figured that's why?? I also got a ton of comments from them such as i'm younger than both of them and it's not fair i'm getting married first??!! ***! (i'm only 1 year younger than 1 and 3 than the other).
I would honestly never do this to a friend that was single, engaged or married! A friend is a friend
LouMar2010
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the only thing that has changed is that we talk about wedding things all the time now! lol
rocketsummer17
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yea, some have gotten weird and others haven gotten closer. One of my best friends since i was a baby keeps telling me what a horrible decision i am making and how i am ruining my life...and how i am being brought down by all of us...yea, she's a 'friend' alright...i have known her since i was a baby and thats what she tells me...sorry i dont want to date men that are 15 years older then i am and have to be fake...did i say that out loud?! there are two other girls who are very supportive, even a friend of mine who is single and deperately wanting a guy...she is always there for me now.
i guess its one of those phases in life where you can weed out more useless people from your life...(sorry girls I am grumpy today lol)
CloudNine
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my friends and i have grown a little apart over the past 2 years because i am in a serious relationship and they arent so we dont do the same things...when i got engaged i feel like it got a little worse. my MOH just got married 9 months ago and we are close...feels like you have single friends on one side and engaged/married on the other. sometimes i feel like they penalize me for moving on with my life...like its a negative thing. oh well.....thats why LIW is great....lets you go on and on about your wedding without being judged or annoying single people lol
CristinanBen2010
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No, none of my relationships with my friends have changed.. My friends are involved with the wedding by asking questions about the planning, if they can help etc. Its unfortunate to see how some of your friends have changed
FutureMrsF2010
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I think my friends have gradually changed over the years...I think I've gotten closer with people that are at the same point in their life as me and farther from the people that aren't quite there yet. Its just life.
Goldie39
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none of my friendships have changed since being engaged. my friends and I are all really busy with the different lives we have so I don't get to see them as often as I'd like, but when we do talk and see each other, nothing has changed. I think a lot of them alread viewed me and FH as being practically married anyway. None of them were surprised when he proposed. they were all like, 'well its about time already!'
