~~QOTD Wed 9/21~~

oct13bride Posted: Sep 21, 2011 07:58 AM

~~QOTD Wed 9/21~~

So today's question comes from some of the answers I saw to yesterday's:

Are you having the wedding you always dreamed of or are ypu having the wedding FH or family wanted?

I am not one of those women that always dreamed about her wedding date. Honestly until I met FH I wasn't even sure marriage was in my future to be honest. When I did think of getting married I figured I would have a destination wedding on a beach somewhere just me, groom, & close family. Well little did I know I would fall for a Catholic Irish boy- he couldn't picture himself getting married & doing it small (or not in a Church). I now refer to my wedding as the circus lmao- it went from me wanting only 100 guests to it probably going to be close to 200guests. The funny part of it is I am loving every minute of planning it. I am surprised how happy I am that FH voiced what he wanted because I guess deep down inside it was what I wanted without even knowing it

StephanieJoy Posted: Sep 21, 2011 08:43 AM

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I guess its the wedding i have dreamed of for the most part. just wish that I had more money so i could have more of the extras or more people invited that i wanted

PaddysGirl Posted: Sep 21, 2011 08:47 AM

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A little bit of both. I was never the girl who always dreamed of her wedding but I knew I wanted a wedding. However, with all the the family drama I would have been very happy with a destination wedding (or heading to city hall then take a 3 week caribbean vacation and maybe have a small ceremony there as well.) FH is the oldest of 3 boys so in addition to not knowing if he would be the only one to get married he really wanted a big family wedding. My mom feels the same way. So, here I am pullig my hair out over all the financial cr@p and all the small details. But I do love it and am happy.

KL824 Posted: Sep 21, 2011 09:14 AM

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I'm definitely having a bigger wedding than I thought I would have. FH always wanted a pretty big wedding. I never dreamed of weddings when I was growing up or anything like that. I did think it would be a little bit more laid back than it's turning out to be, but now I'm excited for a big extravagant wedding!!

FutureMrsGTL Posted: Sep 21, 2011 09:19 AM

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I would say it falls somewhere in the middle

CaughtMyFish Posted: Sep 21, 2011 09:25 AM

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I too never imagined my wedding bc I never thought I would get married. I guess we are both happy with how it's panning out, but it definitely is bigger than I ever thought it would be. FMIL's guest list blew me away, but thankfully they are paying for their guests.

msperfectly Posted: Sep 21, 2011 09:25 AM

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I think it's a little more of what I want.. but FH has given his input and is active in the decision making. :)

irisheyezrsmilen Posted: Sep 21, 2011 10:45 AM

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Yes and no... i never had the ideal dream weddingin my head, i knew i wanted a wedding but the idea kept changing, i thought it would always be a DW, for a long time i was actually thinking las vegas, then it was jamaica now its long island lol

but so far its going well, except for some bumps here and there.

(that sen. goes for in-laws as well lol )

FutureWifey Posted: Sep 21, 2011 10:59 AM

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A little bit of both. I never really dreamed of a wedding. I actually am in the same boat as you where I never really thought I would even get married.

So.. now it's a mixture of what I wanted and what the families want.

Ashleyb22 Posted: Sep 21, 2011 12:14 PM

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I think that I always knew I always wanted a small wedding.

I wish I had the money to have what I have always wanted IE: Ice cream cake, wedding band.. but I will live.

BTW, I am still trying to figure out if I can get an ice cream cake :(

S00n2beWifey Posted: Sep 21, 2011 01:02 PM

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100% having the wedding we always dreamed of!

barbeik005 Posted: Sep 21, 2011 01:08 PM

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I am having the one I dreamed of...the FH is compromising with me because he always thought he'd be married in a church and I always wanted to be married outside. We're taking about doing something in his church for our one year anniversary as a compromise!

wishingwell1230 Posted: Sep 21, 2011 01:56 PM

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This wedding is all my own. I am a lucky girl in that my parents are helping us out tremendously with the finances, but are giving me complete creative control and only adding input when asked. Sometimes it makes me nervous, because I don't want the ideas which seem nice/together in my head to come out just NUTS! haha

Sadly my FH's mother passed away a few years ago, so no input (postive or negative) from that side, his dad has been pretty detached from the process. His brother and SIL have been supportive and helpful without being overbearing though!

That being said, I am going to have to throw my FH a bone or two, so far his ideas don't fit into my themes.

Bride in 2012 Posted: Sep 21, 2011 02:40 PM

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Having the wedding my FH and mother wanted lol

mara1017 Posted: Sep 21, 2011 02:41 PM

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I always thought that I would have a bigger but not crazy wedding so YES!

pixietina Posted: Sep 21, 2011 04:06 PM

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I dreamed of a basic big wedding and am so glad that I can spice it up with FH and my personality. When I saw other geeked out weddings I thought I could never pull it off. According to my mother I am not doing anything traditional and all I can say is thank goodness!