Question?

I remember this question from The Cosy Show and Everybody Loves Raymond.

Would you want your FH to re-marry if you died?

If you could pick the person your FH married, who would that person be?

Even though we aren't married the thought has crossed my mind, At first my thought is HELL No I wouldnt want him to remarry but then I think if he did I pray she is a good person who would love my kids and can cook cause FH and child can EAT!

At this time I have no one that I'd pick to marry my FH!

I dont know, thru ex-boyfriend experiences I have been Very immature, so she must not be as hot as me But I hope my FH thinks she will make her life more complete. Because it is the worst to go thru, I could only imagine

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Posted by neener1211

if he found someone that he loved, and treated him well and our children, then I would want him to be happy.

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I agree,, As long as he kept somewhat of a releationship with my parents for the sake of the kid,,

i told him that i would want him to be happy and re-marry!

funny story: my BIL's mom died about 3 yrs. ago. his parents were married for 50 years!! well before she died, she made a list of like 10 women that she told him, 'When I pass, I KNOW these ladies will be going after you!' (they married young, and he is in good shape for his age) she told him, 'Be happy, I'll be waiting for you in heaven.'

well sure enough--the woman who was #1 on the list, is now married to him! she is 20 yrs. younger than him, makes lots more money, and moved him into her big house. (don't want you guys to think she's a gold digger!) he is very happy, but still remembers his 1st wife....it kind of all worked out in the end for him.

I would only want him to be happy and my children to be taken care of.

When my Father passed and my Mom re-married, I flipped out, felt how can you do that, etc.., but when I saw the joy in her face again and the smile, I said she does not deserve to be alone.

NO! I WOULD NOT WANT HIM TO!!!!! He'll have to suffer without me!!!!

But if I had to choose, it would be an ugly wench who he didnt love so that I'll always be his beloved shining star.

FH actually said to me this week that if he dies before me he wants me to be happy and remarry but when I die I am all his.
I don't think I could ever remarry and I am not sure I'd want him to either. Hopefully it's not something I ever have to think about!!!

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Posted by betani

hopefully we'll never have to deal with this (we'll both die at the same time at the ripe old age of 100, in each other's arms, asleep in bed - that's the plan at least), but if we ever have to go through it, i'd just want him to be happy and him and whatever kids we have to be treated well and for them to maintain a relationship with my family.

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Did someone watch The Notebook? That is my favorite part (they are in each other's arms, in bed when they pass)

I agree. I would want him to remarry (even tho he has told me he wouldnt, yea right), but to someone like me who cares about him, loves him, and if we had children would love my children too. Thats all I ask for.

i would want my dh to re marry for sure. we have spoken about it. i would want him to have companionship and be happy even if it is not with me.

i dont know who i would have him marry.

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Posted by prettyprincess07

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Posted by betani

hopefully we'll never have to deal with this (we'll both die at the same time at the ripe old age of 100, in each other's arms, asleep in bed - that's the plan at least), but if we ever have to go through it, i'd just want him to be happy and him and whatever kids we have to be treated well and for them to maintain a relationship with my family.

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Did someone watch The Notebook? That is my favorite part (they are in each other's arms, in bed when they pass)

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I just watched this...it was so sad!!!!!! What a great movie!!