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Ok so when making out a guest list..are you supposed to invite everyone with a guest or only keep it to people in a relationship?? Im not really sure what to do

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Totally up to you. My eparty is no guests unless its a long term relationship. Weddings I said it was ok to bring a guest.

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Ugh.......This is the big debate for us.

I feel like etiquitte says that you SHOULD invite everyone with a guest - no matter what - but I don't feel that our budget really allows for it.

I think we'll just see who is married/engaged/in serious relationships and invite those people with a guest, and then weigh in on everyone else and decide whether or not to invite them with a guest (ie - do they know anyone else coming? If not, they'd probably feel alone, so we'll invite them with a guest).

A lot of the girls on here say 'Well, who are we to decide whether or not someone's relationship is serious?' I understand the argument, but at the end of the day, I'm shelling out the cash...

I think that its YOUR day, so you get to determine who you want to invite and who you don't. It really is the only time in your life where you get to be 'the bouncer' -

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For me I define serious as- I have met them before. I just went to a wedding for one of my friends with another friend of mine who wasn't invited with a date. Needless to say she got trashed and we had to stay around to make sure she was ok. Not to say that I wouldn't have anyway, but it would have been 'easier' if she would have came with someone. And she agrees with this as well.

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thanks girls..

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I'm inviting almost everyone with a date, I feel bad making someone come alone if they don't want to. However, I also don't want people to find a date they hardly know just so sthey don't have to come alone. I'm not sure how to word that though

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maybe the ones that we know would bring dirtbags we can invite w/out dates. My girls are all over tonight and they already said if I invite them with a date and they don't have anyone to take they'll just come dateless

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im inviting everyone who is 18 and over with a date. anyone in highschool has to come with their parents. One of my cousins who is the same age as me, 26 has never had a serious relationship, but i couldnt justify not inviting him without a guest, his 2 sisters, both have boyfriends, so if i invite them with guests, and not him, that would be extremely rude. I honestly dont care if he brings a girl i do not know. Its his choice.

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i think its personal choice.

honestly, for us, everyone is mostly in a couple anyway. and those that are single...they are invited with a guest. i only do it, because really, how much does it suuck to be invited to a wedding SINGLE? and yes, i know that some ppl will say 'oh but i will put them at a table with other singles and they can maybe meet someone and get along' but i think the table of 'singles' will know they are at that table, and kind of feel bad about it. like 'gee--we're the single ppl who weren't allowed dates and have t mingle amongst ourselves'

therefore, i'm all about making sure my guests enjoy themselves.

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i think its personal choice.

honestly, for us, everyone is mostly in a couple anyway. and those that are single...they are invited with a guest. i only do it, because really, how much does it suuck to be invited to a wedding SINGLE? and yes, i know that some ppl will say 'oh but i will put them at a table with other singles and they can maybe meet someone and get along' but i think the table of 'singles' will know they are at that table, and kind of feel bad about it. like 'gee--we're the single ppl who weren't allowed dates and have t mingle amongst ourselves'

therefore, i'm all about making sure my guests enjoy themselves.

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I mean, I want my guests to enjoy themselves too...but I don't think that constitutes inviting everyone with a guest.

It's tough. We've all been on the other side of the coin (is that even a phrase?!) and it stinks when you aren't invited with a guest. At the same time though, I've never been invited to a wedding without a guest when I haven't known anyone else at the wedding. I wouldn't do that at my wedding... I'd totally invite those people with a guest. I don't think its fair to be invited to wedding and not know ANYONE there.

But my college friends, who are single and will be doing shots and irish car bombs at the bar the entire night? They'll keep each other company.

I've been invited to weddings without a guest where I've known a ton of other people there...and I didn't need to have a date there to keep me company.. I had my buds and I had a great time!

I would LOVEEEEEEEEEE to invite everyone with a guest. But I don't think it's possible financially. So I'm going to have to weigh out each situation. It $ucks, but, what are ya gonna do on a limited budget!?

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both.

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I agree with you bonnie, I think because we're in the same boat. Almost everyone is going to be invited with a date BUT I keep having flashbacks to my roommate from college being invited to a wedding with a date and she didn't have one and she took someone she didn't even know, met him for the first time when he picked her up to go to the wedding and then she never spoke to him again. Why should I pay for someone's dinner that my guest doesn't know and is never going to speak to again? Especially because I am paying for the whole thing myself (well with FH) and am definitely not in the situation (financially) to be paying for people that not only I don't know, but that my guest doesn't know.

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thanks everyone..I think i might just invite everyone with a date..you girls brought up good points./.

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see all the guys FH is friends with would just being some hootchy off the street b/c they think they 'have' to bring someone.. and i dont want hootcheys at my wedding.. so i have to watch who i add a guest too!

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