Question about inviting co-workers

StepherG Posted: Dec 04, 2003 01:52 PM

Question about inviting co-workers

I work in a small office. I hadn't planned on really inviting anyone other than my boss and his wife because we already have way too many people on the list as it is. Last week a guy I work with said, 'oh, when's your wedding? I'm just making sure I'm not on vacation that week.'

I was like- what? I didn't say anything and just smiled. What am I supposed to do? I don't see these people other than 9-5pm. I don't consider them my friends - just my co-workers. To tell the truth, I only really like 1 or 2 people.

If I invite them all with their spouses it would be an extra 12 people and cost me $1200 or so. Besides that my hall only fits 200 and I have 228 on the list now.

What should I do????? HELP!!

luvsun27 Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:00 PM

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You don't have to invite them...just let them know that you are keeping the list down to family and close friends because you can't afford to have everyone. You don't owe these people anything....don't worry :)

Annemarie13 Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:06 PM

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It's funny how people assume they are invited? I had the same thing happen to me. Dont feel obligated to invite them. If anyone asks, just tell them you are having a small wedding. That is what I did.

Nora101004 Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:06 PM

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Its rude to invite yourself to someone elses wedding. Just tell him that you are keeping it small and just can't afford to invite the entire office.

xjulietx Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:12 PM

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You don't need to invite him. Invite your boss, though

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:12 PM

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I might invite co-workers without significant others. That way we can have one table of just my co-workers. I may also invite them and and assume most wont come.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
And you did the right thing in not responding to the ASSUMER! Lots of people have been doing that to us too! It's funny!
You don't even have to explain yourself to anyone.

dolphin Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:16 PM

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IT is funny how people assume they are invited. We have these friends who we only see/talk to when we are with one of my bridesmaids and best man. We don't email, talk on the phone etc. One of the friends said to the best man, oh when is their wedding so I can make plans.
My FH and I really like these people but I feel like we are asking for gifts inviting them when we are friends by association

You can totally be honest with your coworkers and say you are just inviting family and friends which already brings you over the number allowed inthe room

jmarshall Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:54 PM

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I'm in the same situation. I am planning to invite about 7 people out of 14. I don't really talk to the others although it is a small office and we see each other all day long. I know some of them are going to be pissed. I don't know what to say though. I can't say I'm keeping it small because I'm inviting around 300. What do you think?

Kelly9904 Posted: Dec 04, 2003 02:59 PM

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You dont have to invite them but just one thought, if you JUST invite your boss will he/she feel uncomfortable knowing no one else there?

violet Posted: Dec 04, 2003 03:00 PM

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Just say you're keeping your list as short as possible, and only inviting very close people. I honestly didn't know if a friend that I talk to on the phone once in awhile who moved farther away was inviting me to her wedding, so I would talk about her wedding, but never mention anything about me going to it. But yesterday she did end up calling me for my address to invite me. It's like, you never want to assume someone's inviting you and mention it to them b/c then it's just weird.

unicorn1178 Posted: Dec 04, 2003 09:05 PM

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I hear you.. I work in a small company as well.. And talk goes around real fast.. If you just state it loud and proud that you are having a small wedding (also try to work into a conversation with your boss that the costs are outrageous, you may just get a raise :) ) many people will not expect an invitation.

mich Posted: Dec 04, 2003 10:59 PM

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ughhh- I hate when people assume they are invited. It is such an awkward feeling!

KarenK122 Posted: Dec 04, 2003 11:08 PM

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You don't need to invite anyone from your office if you don't want too. Just say your keeping the guest list to a minimum and people understand. I wouldn't though invite some and not others. That might cause some hard feelings, except your boss (thats always the exception lol).

Good luck!!!

nov2004bride Posted: Dec 04, 2003 11:19 PM

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I agree with everyone else. Just invite your boss and let everyone else know that you can only invite a certain amount of people. They might get upset but who cares if you don't even like them Your boss should be the only one that you need to invite!!

sammi102 Posted: Dec 05, 2003 08:53 AM

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I agree, if you're not too close with everyone, at least send an invitation to your boss with a guest, so in case they don't know anyone there

Valentinegirl Posted: Dec 05, 2003 08:54 AM

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Just tell them you are only having family and close friends. I had this problem also.

Sept17Girl Posted: Dec 05, 2003 10:30 PM

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I am telling everyone the same, that we are keeping it small, mainly because we are the ones that are laying out the money

J.Lo24 Posted: Dec 05, 2003 10:42 PM

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I am having a hard time with the whole work-invite thing. I have selected 3 co-workers that I am going to invite. I work with thousands of people in the building but around 8 people closer then others. The 3 that I am inviting are the 3 that I socialize with, in work and also outside of work. This was how I justified it. What I plan on doing is hanging an invitation by the time clocks with a letter stating that I would love to be able to invite everyone to wedding but unfortunately we could not since it is a small wedding. I will extend the welcome for anyone to come to the church. I have not figured out the wording yet. Hopefully no one with get offended.

molly25 Posted: Dec 06, 2003 08:16 PM

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I never understood how some people are so nervy to invite themselves. At my job at least 3 people have done this. Asking such questions as'When is your wedding again? Is that a Sat. or a Sunday?' 'Well I have to make sure my hubby can get off that Sat'. Another said' I don't mean to be forward but , I would really love to go to your wedding.' The other said 'oh I hope we're invited to your wedding because I know its going to be a blast.' at first, I just kind of smiled. Now I tell them its going to be a lot smaller than we thought because of financial reasons.' I just leave it at that. I mean we would all love to have everybody, but its just not affordable these days.