Question about speakers not in bridal party..

tiakisses Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:26 AM

Question about speakers not in bridal party..

can you have someone speak who is not in the bridal party ??
how does all this work ?

september2004 Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:29 AM

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sure! do whatever you want!

i am having my father say a few words in addition to my sister (MOH) and my FH best friend who will be the best man

NYCHICK Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:29 AM

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sure you can. Just tell your dj. I think my granma is gonna say something at my wedding.

BMD'sPeanut Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:30 AM

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do you mean people who do readings at the ceremony?
the people who are doing readings at my wedding are not in my bridal party.
you can do whatever you want. it's your wedding.
if you are talking about people who will make a toast at your wedding---you might want to keep that short since it could cut into valuable PARTY time

StepherG Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:41 AM

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I have 2 people doing readings at my wedding that are not in the bridal party. I have my florist making them a boutenierre & a corsage. I think that will tie them into the whole thing!

tourist Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:46 AM

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Yes, if you have multiple speaches --keep them SHORT!

My friend had her MOH (15 yea old sister) read a poem she wrote, and the Best man
(brother of groom)spoke, then a bridesmaid (bride's best friend) and a groomsman
(grooms best friend)and then the Bride's father. (We're not sure if that was planned.)Those of us who didn't know msot of these people, were talking amongst ourselves for most of it.

itsbouttime Posted: Feb 04, 2004 10:50 AM

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we're having two readers at our ceremony. both are godparents.
the reception we're having two toasts. one by BM and one by MOH.
the only other person who might say something at the reception would be FH or I (towards the end to thank everyone for being part of our day)

Smolokoff Posted: Feb 04, 2004 11:13 PM

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It's your wedding, honey!!! If you want it, they will probably be able to do it!!

aliciahelene Posted: Feb 04, 2004 11:33 PM

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Yes, the best man gave a speech, but my brother and my husbands Uncle both said a prayer, which was more like a speech and we LOVED it!!!
You have whatever you want!!! My best friend since I was 9 ( Im 33 now) was going to also give a speech, but chickened out at the last minute..you do whatever makes you happy!!!

Spitzergirl Posted: Feb 04, 2004 11:56 PM

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AAAAAaohhh......

Those dreaded speaches..some people can chat all through the reception, while others...get nervous from all the people. I don't personally mind if certain people speak or not. The last wedding I went to, they had a portable video camera..going around each table for all the shy people who did not want to talk out loud to toast the bride and groom.

ChristineC68 Posted: Feb 05, 2004 12:00 AM

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I went to a wedding where the B&G asked several people to speak. It was nice to hear from so many people but 2 of them spoke for a very long time.

If you have more then 2 or 3 speakers, I would ask them to keep it concise.

Maribelle7777 Posted: Feb 05, 2004 12:04 AM

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sure why not.

I don't know how it really works. I've only seen best men speak, but my sister apparently wants to say something (she's my moh - i don't konw if i am ready to hear what she wants to say, she can get too mushy sometimes), and FFIL wants to say something....so maybe my dad will say something....don't know.

I don't want it becoming a bit speech-a-thon.

As long as you don't mind a few people talking, then give the names of the speakers to the DJ before the wedding so he can properly announce that they want to share a few words or make a toast.