Question for Jewish Brides

mrswask Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:32 PM

Question for Jewish Brides

I would like to honor my grandmother at the wedding - she has given a lot of support both financial and emotional- is it appropriate to have her do the blessing on the challah? And if not, what else can I do? I don't really want to make a thank you speech, because then I feel, to keep the peace, I have to thank everyone and then it loses it point...

BethGail Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:34 PM

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I dont see why not. Traditionally males do the blessings over the challah, but in the current age where there are even female rabbis i think that this could be a great gesture to your grandmother.

mrswask Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:37 PM

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Do you think it would be offensive to my dad? Someone told me that it should be my dad - but I feel like he is already being 'honored' as the father of the bride. If my grandpa was alive, he would have done it...

Chloegirl Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:39 PM

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What about writing something in the programs about how much you she means to the both of you and thanking her.

That is what DH and I did...we thanked our family with a nice message and then we had a page with a dedication and poem.

rls32 Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:40 PM

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My father is not doing the blessing over the challah... I think its a great idea to have your grandmother do that... I agree that your father is already honored that day by walking you down the aisle and by the father/bride dance.

Chloegirl Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:41 PM

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Also, will she be walking down the isle? Both my DH's grandparents walked down the isle...it really meant a lot to them.

mrswask Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:42 PM

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I'm planning on it (her walking down aisle)

May05Bride Posted: Jul 19, 2004 04:43 PM

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Originally, it was the Groom that was to give a blessing over Challah... Now, out of respect to elder generations, it is suppose to be the oldest male - like Grandfather or Father older -

I think a great way to honour her would simply be to thank her in your wedding speech. I think that would mean a lot to her.