Question for Jewish Brides...

roan126 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:02 PM

Question for Jewish Brides...

How are you handling the ring situation during the ceremony?

I have a plain gold band that I'm going to be getting married in. This will not be my everyday band; I bought a diamond band to wear with my engagement ring. I figure that during the ceremony, I will wear my engagement ring on my left hand, and the rabbi will put the gold band on my right index finger, as is tradition.

My question is what to do with the diamond band? Should I wear it down the aisle with my engagement ring, or put it on after the ceremony? And what happens to the gold band for the rest of the ceremony? Does it stay on the index finger?

hope this makes sense.

bluegreen08 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:04 PM

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i am tentatively getting married in my grandmother's gold band. we are very very close, and she, my mom, and my aunts all got married wearing her band.

we didnt plan on the logistics, but maybe my grandma will wear my wedding band on her pinky (i have tiny fingers) and then we will do our own swap after the ceremony? or she can just hold the box with my wedding band.

(my band has diamonds half around)

SB7308 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:05 PM

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I was told you arent allowed to wear rings under the chuppah??
I have a plain gold band for the ceremony. I'll just take it off and put my band on after the ceremony.

roan126 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:16 PM

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Posted by SB7308

I was told you arent allowed to wear rings under the chuppah??
I have a plain gold band for the ceremony. I'll just take it off and put my band on after the ceremony.

Really? I hadnt heard that. I'm will ask the Rabbi about that.

SB7308 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:29 PM

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Posted by roan126

Posted by SB7308

I was told you arent allowed to wear rings under the chuppah??
I have a plain gold band for the ceremony. I'll just take it off and put my band on after the ceremony.

Really? I hadnt heard that. I'm will ask the Rabbi about that.

My sister in alaw told me this at her wedding.
Def. check with your Rabbi.

Libba Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:39 PM

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I have a diamond band that matches my e-ring for every day, and I am going to get a plain gold band for the ceremony. It's our custom not to wear any jewelry under the chuppah, so I'm going to take all of it off before the ceremony and get married with the plain band. After the ceremony, I plan to wear the diamond band with my e-ring on my left hand, and the plain gold band on the right hand for the rest of the wedding.

mariana881 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 01:42 PM

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I will not be wearing my e-ring under the chuppah, i will be getting married in my grandmothers wedding band and after the ceremony will put on my e-ring and actual wedding band.

roan126 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 02:11 PM

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Hmm.. that is interesting. I'd never heard that before about no rings under the chuppah.

jessnstu08 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 02:33 PM

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interesting, I will have to call my rabbi and check with him , since I just purchased my ring this weekend and it is all diamonds!

roan126 Posted: Mar 10, 2008 02:58 PM

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Posted by jessnstu08

interesting, I will have to call my rabbi and check with him , since I just purchased my ring this weekend and it is all diamonds!

Definitely check...It has to be a solid band...can't have any adornments or holes. Doesnt mean you can't wear it after; the one that you actually get 'married' in has to be solid.