Question for Jewish Brides

NYCMeghan Posted: Apr 07, 2003 10:20 AM

Question for Jewish Brides

Random question - is there a Jewish tradition that I can incorporate into a protestant ceremony without offending anyone? My grandfather was raised as a Jew, but then converted when he met my grandmother. I kind of feel that this is a part of my heritage I'd like to recognize, but do not want to be inappropriate. I thought that the glass breaking tradition might be one to incorporate, but I really don't want to do something I shouldn't. Thoughts?

groovypeg Posted: Apr 07, 2003 10:23 AM

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what about having a huppah? would that be offensive? it would be so pretty if you decorate it with flowers. and the symbolism of the huppah is beautiful.

NYCMeghan Posted: Apr 07, 2003 10:26 AM

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I'm not sure if a chuppah would fit in my church, and if they would allow it. What is the symbolism behind it anyway? I remember reading about it in a religion class but my brain is mush and I can't remember anything!

alina Posted: Apr 07, 2003 10:28 AM

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Chuppa represents the new home of the couple. It offers a roof, and the lack of walls is supposed to be inviting to guests/friends/family.

That is why your parents stay under chuppa.

HillandRon Posted: Apr 07, 2003 10:28 AM

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Meghan,

I would first ask your church if they would allow something like this to be done during the ceremony.
I have been to plenty of interfaith weddings and They have never been performed in a church.

Start there first and then you can maybe incorporate something of the jewish tradition.

Jess2 Posted: Apr 07, 2003 10:48 AM

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Can you do something at your reception? Maybe do the Hoorah?

sept20yay! Posted: Apr 07, 2003 11:14 AM

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I love the breaking of the glass idea, Meghan. I think it is a lovely symbol of starting your life together! Okay, back to work. Talk to ya lata!

sparkette Posted: Apr 07, 2003 01:07 PM

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I agree that the breaking of the glass would be a wonderful tradition to incorporate. There are many explanation for this tradition, but one that would be appropriate for you to have your minister use to explain what your FI is going to do is:

'The broken glass symbolizes many things. It warns us that love, like glass, is fragile and must be protected. The promises made by the bride an groom, like the broken glass, are irrevocable.'