We have a wedding next June for one of DH's friends-- they did not get us a gift for our wedding.. What do we do for their's?
I know it's not tit for tat.. but come on-- get us a card or something.. It's not like they are not planning a wedding themselves.. and they are old enough to know better.
Just was curious what people thought..
Marrie
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are your sure their gift was not lost in the shuffle?
Love_my_Freddybear
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I don't know what to say...honestly.
I know I would hold a grudge!!!! But then agian, that's no ticket to heaven.
I would give something, but nothing that I normally would give.
And make sure there gift wasn't misplaced or lost in the shuffle.
tough call on that one!
PinkSoil
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Just because of what they did (which was completely crappy) don't let that change the fact that you are a thoughtful person with proper etiquette. If you are to attend the wedding, I would give a gift (a very small one). I just don't like to sink to other peoples' levels... Well either that, or I wouldn't go!
Bunnymonkey
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i would give a nice card and a SMALL gift.
Dooodles
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I don't think I would be as generous as originally intended
FTRBRIDE
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It's not until next June...so you have a while to see if they send you a wedding gift (that old 1 year after the wedding rule is horrible in my opinion, but regardless, it exists). If they still send you nothing, I would get them something very small (definately not cash).
Backinneyork
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Tough call. Hmm, thay have had plenty of time to send you something since your wedding. That's so rude
I am a true beleiver in what comes around goes around. Half of me thinks F them and don't give something, but half of me thinks you should be the better person and give them something really small.
Mrs. dleeny
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hmmm! that's a tough one. Maybe their check got lost in the shuffle? I probably would have asked if that were the case. I mean, they could be waiting for their thank you card (if they gave cash).
I would ask them. I know it's not the easiest thing in the world, but it's the only way to know for sure.
BethGail
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i am in the same boat, this was one of our groomesmen and DH is the best man!!! they kept telling us they were getitng us a gift and never did and then dropped it! i do NOT know what to do, i want to give smething small, cause i feel like i should never go somewhere empty handed, BUT DH says that he doenst think that we should give anything...
Mrs. dleeny
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Posted by BethGail
i am in the same boat, this was one of our groomesmen and DH is the best man!!! they kept telling us they were getitng us a gift and never did and then dropped it! i do NOT know what to do, i want to give smething small, cause i feel like i should never go somewhere empty handed, BUT DH says that he doenst think that we should give anything...
if I were in that position, I would probably get them something off their registry - something small. I, like you, can't go somewhere empty handed.
