Question on hair and makeup

My FW just hit this on me and I am not sure how to take it.

She tells me that we have to pick up the tab on hair and makeup for the entire bridal party. Is that the case? I know the girls pick up the tab for their dresses... i figured they would be responsible for their own hair and makeup.

I thought I read on here that a lot of people just have the bride have her hair and makeup done professionally... and the girls just do their hair and makeup on their own?

She is telling me this can run $1000 for herself and four girls. Please help!

I have *never* been in a bridal party where my hair and makeup was paid for... and I have been a bridesmaid NINE TIMES!!!

You are certainly not obligated to pay for them. If it is a gift to them, in lieu of an 'object,' then OK... but it is certainly NOT a must-do!

imost of the time they pay for them selves
i told my girls they have to wear their hair all up but dont ahve to get it done ( i said if they want it done just tell me and i will get them an appointment unless they ahve someone else but most of them go to my salon normally for their hair anyway

make up i think it is up for them.....they do it nicely and some people just rather do it themselves

that is rediculous to pay $1000 unless it is their gift

It is not a necesity or a requirement for you and FW to pay for the BM's hair or makeup. Based on your post, I am thinking your FW wants to do it..which a whole other 'fish to fry' between the two of you. When you start running low on funds, maybe she will change her mind!

Well... my FW tried to make me out to be the idiot since I didn't 'KNOW' that we are responsible for all their hair and makeup. She is like 'its wedding ettituite'. I was like 'who's ettiquite... the GIRLS?'

Then I looked it up online (wedding ettiquite) and the only times I saw that a bride should pay for her girls is if she requires her girls to have a 'set theme'. We ain't having no theme so that definitely doesn't apply.

She told me $1000 (which included HER)... but frankly my FW really doesn't have a clue when it comes to planning a wedding (even though she thinks she knows ). Case in point... we are 9 months away and she hasn't even STARTED to look for a dress for herself yet (she is going Friday to start though). I have done all the planning so far (hall, DJ, photographer).

I have a feeling we will end up paying for this anyways though, I am already hearing the 'well my sister is poor... my MOH has no job...' deal. And you are right... that will be another issue in itself. I am not a cheap guy either though... if she really wants her girls to get professionally made up... ill just tell her to find somebody reasonable. I dont have a problem with any of her girls... so I don't have a problem doing this. But I don't want her to think we 'HAVE' to do this... cause we certainly don't. And if we do indeed do this... it definitely will be labeled as 'a gift'.

Thanks for this information. I knew that it sounded outrageous when I heard it... I just wanted to get some confirmation.

The only time a bride pays for the bridal party's hair and makeup is if she chooses too....
but all the times i've been a BM ...I paid for my own hair, and did my own makeup....

My girls paid for themselves. I have only heard of one occassion when the bride paid & it was part of their gift......