Question on Invitation addressing

I am trying to figure out how to address to adult children living at home with parents and younger children. If I address it to 'The Smith Family', they might bring their younger children to the adult reception. And I don't think I need to send 2 invites to the same address.

HELP!

hmm that is tricky...I would say to be safe just spell out exactly who is invited to the reception on the invitation.
Personally, if i got an invite addressed to my family I would assume all kids are invited...i find it strange to invite lets say 2 of the 4 kids; i would expect all or nothing.

If they're adults, they should get their own invitation. JMO.

You could also address them on the inner invitation

Outer: The Smith Family

Inner
Mr and Mrs. Joseph Smith
Mr. Adam Smith

Or just put the above on the outside, but I really think adults need their own invitation. I broke this rule in one instance for my 20 year old cousin. I just did 'The jones Family' and lsited all 4 names on the inside since they are travelling cross country and I knew he wasn't bringing a date and it's a family thing, so they're coming as one entity

Thats the thing. These families are traveling, so I figured we would invite the whole family. And them FMIL heard this....

'Are you kidding me? You want screaming kids at your wedding?!?'

Ok, I have FIVE flowergirls....no matter what there will be screaming.

So maybe I should include the children....(there's a fairly good chance the families won't be coming anyways)

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Posted by anszusterman

Thats the thing. These families are traveling, so I figured we would invite the whole family. And them FMIL heard this....

'Are you kidding me? You want screaming kids at your wedding?!?'

Ok, I have FIVE flowergirls....no matter what there will be screaming.

So maybe I should include the children....(there's a fairly good chance the families won't be coming anyways)

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In this situation... OOT families should be invited with kids if you already have some kids invited. I have 11 children on my guest list. It doesn't bother me.

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Posted by anszusterman

Thats the thing. These families are traveling, so I figured we would invite the whole family. And them FMIL heard this....

'Are you kidding me? You want screaming kids at your wedding?!?'

Ok, I have FIVE flowergirls....no matter what there will be screaming.

So maybe I should include the children....(there's a fairly good chance the families won't be coming anyways)

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If it were, esp if they're OOT, I'd invite the whole shebang

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Posted by HSsweethearts

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Posted by anszusterman

Thats the thing. These families are traveling, so I figured we would invite the whole family. And them FMIL heard this....

'Are you kidding me? You want screaming kids at your wedding?!?'

Ok, I have FIVE flowergirls....no matter what there will be screaming.

So maybe I should include the children....(there's a fairly good chance the families won't be coming anyways)

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If it were, esp if they're OOT, I'd invite the whole shebang

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I agree, OOT kids are different.

Technically, anyone over 18 should receive a separate invitation.

As an aside: The whole writing names on the inner envelope thing always makes me laugh because of something that happened to me right after I graduated from college. I was in my first BP and the invitation came. I knew the bride was inviting me with a guest because she kept telling me to hurry up and find a date. Anyway, the invitation arrived and it was addressed to me...no 'and guest' on the envelope. It wasn't until I called her to ask that she said, 'did you read the inner envelope?' Well, um..no. At the time, I had no idea anyone wrote anything on those so I just tossed it aside. Had I not called, I would have thought she'd changed her mind about giving me a guest.

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Posted by anszusterman

Thats the thing. These families are traveling, so I figured we would invite the whole family. And them FMIL heard this....

'Are you kidding me? You want screaming kids at your wedding?!?'

Ok, I have FIVE flowergirls....no matter what there will be screaming.

So maybe I should include the children....(there's a fairly good chance the families won't be coming anyways)

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JMO, but personally, i would be offended if you invited 2 of my kids but not the others, for example.
if your dead set on it, send each person their own invitiation. becauser each adult gets their own. or put their names spelled out on the front - but it might look too cluttered

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Posted by anszusterman

I am trying to figure out how to address to adult children living at home with parents and younger children. If I address it to 'The Smith Family', they might bring their younger children to the adult reception. And I don't think I need to send 2 invites to the same address.

HELP!

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I did. I would send one to the parents and then gave the 'adult child' their own invite. I wanted to make sure it was clear who was invited. It's also my thinking they really should have their own anyway. I was invited to a wedding this past weekend and they sent the invitation to my parents and me on the same envelope. Yes, I live with them but i felt I should have been given my own.

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Posted by NYtherapist

Technically, anyone over 18 should receive a separate invitation.

As an aside: The whole writing names on the inner envelope thing always makes me laugh because of something that happened to me right after I graduated from college. I was in my first BP and the invitation came. I knew the bride was inviting me with a guest because she kept telling me to hurry up and find a date. Anyway, the invitation arrived and it was addressed to me...no 'and guest' on the envelope. It wasn't until I called her to ask that she said, 'did you read the inner envelope?' Well, um..no. At the time, I had no idea anyone wrote anything on those so I just tossed it aside. Had I not called, I would have thought she'd changed her mind about giving me a guest.

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LOL this so happened to me! My cousin got married this past October and FH's name wasn't on the invites. I was trash talking her so bad - then when I went to get the invite to mail back my 'no' RSVP I saw the inner envelope. I was like 'oh crap.' We went and then got her an extra gift because I felt so bad!