Question - was I out of line?
Last night I went to bed early because I was not feeling well. I got up about 8:30 because I was feeling nauseous and went to the bathroom. Someone called and FH answered and it was a friend of mine that lives downstair in my apt building. She was at her sister-in-law's with her 4 month old daughter. She wanted me to go downstairs to knock on her door to wake her husband up to go and pick her up from SIL home. Apparently her phone was off the hook (he called in sick to work and didn't want them calling) and he wasn't answering his cell phone. I said OK (but I really didn't want to). I said can you take a taxi home and she said no because she didn't have a baby seat with her. FH got mad after I hung up and got dressed because I was sick and that she should have called someone else or taken the taxi. He said 5 minutes in a taxi (and that's all it would be I know where her SIL lives) wouldn't be that bad if she held the baby. I said 'well it's risky and illegal to do that' so I go downstairs. I asked FH to go for me but he said no, that he didn't see why my friend, who knew from yesterday morning I was sick, was calling me to do this when she could call a taxi instead. I also can't stand her husband - he's a jerk and he's rude to her own family. I rang twice, no answer so I said 'oh well i'm not standing here all night ringing this damn door' so I went to check my mailbox which is right near her door. I started walking back upstairs and he opens the door, he's on his cell phone and said 'thanks mary' and I said 'is that your wife on the phone' and he said yes.
So I thought to myself 'why was he on the phone already before he answered the door' and it pissed me off because it was obvious he realized he had to go and get her and why was I asked to go and knock on the door?
So I called her back to say 'denis heard the door' but I think I really wanted to call her and say 'why did you call me when you knew I was sick' and I told her I was sleeping when she called and she got all huffy and said 'well thank you for getting dressed and going down there it was very nice of you' and I just didn't understand - if he was on the phone already obviously he knew he had to get her and I don't think she needed to have me do it. I even said that taking a taxi woudn't have been the worst thing in the world and she got bitchy and said 'well if you want to risk doing that when you have a baby that's your business but I'm not going to risk it myself' I ended up yelling at her 'you knew I was sick all day and FH told you I was sick when you called and I was sleeping before that' and she hung up on me.
Ok so I shoulnd't have yelled but really - I didn't think what she did was fair. She's a bit self centered. But what I am afraid of is that her sister is one of my BM and I'm good friends with another one of her sisters and now I feel like they're all going to be mad at me for yelling at their sister. I should have just told her I couldn't do it but I told her when she had the baby that if she needed anything to call me so I felt obligated. And I'm a bit pissed off that FH didn't go downstairs and do it - he's so fucking stubborn sometimes.
If I was wrong please tell me. I feel bad but I also think she shouldn't have called to begin with and found another solution. But if I was wrong, I will apologize.
So I thought to myself 'why was he on the phone already before he answered the door' and it pissed me off because it was obvious he realized he had to go and get her and why was I asked to go and knock on the door?
So I called her back to say 'denis heard the door' but I think I really wanted to call her and say 'why did you call me when you knew I was sick' and I told her I was sleeping when she called and she got all huffy and said 'well thank you for getting dressed and going down there it was very nice of you' and I just didn't understand - if he was on the phone already obviously he knew he had to get her and I don't think she needed to have me do it. I even said that taking a taxi woudn't have been the worst thing in the world and she got bitchy and said 'well if you want to risk doing that when you have a baby that's your business but I'm not going to risk it myself' I ended up yelling at her 'you knew I was sick all day and FH told you I was sick when you called and I was sleeping before that' and she hung up on me.
Ok so I shoulnd't have yelled but really - I didn't think what she did was fair. She's a bit self centered. But what I am afraid of is that her sister is one of my BM and I'm good friends with another one of her sisters and now I feel like they're all going to be mad at me for yelling at their sister. I should have just told her I couldn't do it but I told her when she had the baby that if she needed anything to call me so I felt obligated. And I'm a bit pissed off that FH didn't go downstairs and do it - he's so fucking stubborn sometimes.
If I was wrong please tell me. I feel bad but I also think she shouldn't have called to begin with and found another solution. But if I was wrong, I will apologize.
