Quick question for Sept/oct. Brides who have gotten RSVP 'no's'

CandB4604 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:26 AM

Quick question for Sept/oct. Brides who have gotten RSVP 'no's'

I only have gotten the first few 'yes's' and no 'no's' yet - so question for when they come.

Do those people send presents when they send the 'yes' or more closer to the wedding? Was curious if I should get some really nice TY cards now to send sooner than when we get the Thank You cards from our photographer...

Thanks!

jennym2b Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:29 AM

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we've been getting rsvp's everyday since we sent them. although they were mostly yes' with only about 15 no's we haven't gotten any gifts from anyone. i would wait until you send all of the thank you's & do them together.

CandB4604 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:30 AM

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hmm, okay cool. Just wouldn't want anyone to think 'hey - i sent a check and no thank you card?'

I'll wait then probably - TY

gina409 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:30 AM

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ive gotten a bunch of no's.... mean by rsvp date is next week so most of mine r in..i got 2 gifts with about 25 no's..but to be honest i was not expecting any so i was pretty happy

CandB4604 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:33 AM

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nice Gina! Can't lie - wouldn't mind a little something now to help with all the final details

gina409 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:34 AM

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Posted by CandB4604

nice Gina! Can't lie - wouldn't mind a little something now to help with all the final details

i know right..my mom says people sometimes send the gift closer to the wedding.so we wll see but i sent out thank you cards just to be safe..i was afraid i would forget

Sarahgetsmarried Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:37 AM

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I would EXPECT that people send a check with a no.

(I don't mean I expect a gift, rather it seems etiquette states a no should be accompanied by a gift)

But that has not been my experience with the no's so far.

I would not EXPECT a gift with a 'yes'. I would certainly think people would give you a gift at the wedding, not with a yes RSVP.

Lisa909 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:39 AM

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I have gotten quite a few no's already. With about 8 of the no responses people put checks in the rsvp. For these people I sent out a quick thank you card to acknowledge I got their gift and I also plan on sending our actual thank you cards after the wedding.

FutureMrsC Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:43 AM

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We got the majority of our nos torwards the end. We only got one gift from someone who RSVPed no and I sent them a regular thank you card. I plan on sending them a photo one too when I send out the rest.

julesrbf Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:44 AM

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We actually got two presents before even sending our invitations from people who knew they couldn't come. We have not received gifts from anyone who has RSVPed no since.

CandB4604 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 11:49 AM

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Posted by gina409

Posted by CandB4604

nice Gina! Can't lie - wouldn't mind a little something now to help with all the final details

i know right..my mom says people sometimes send the gift closer to the wedding.so we wll see but i sent out thank you cards just to be safe..i was afraid i would forget

yeah totally - know what you mean.

Well, I love the idea of sending the formal 'Thank You' later on - and then a quick 'dont worry - got your RSVP' thing now.

Thanks girls!

MrsGRod09 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 12:18 PM

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I have 9 no's so far and no gift and my RSVP date is August 31st.

meg922 Posted: Aug 26, 2009 12:41 PM

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Some of the people who declined have sent us checks, although usually not with their RSVP cards. We've also received some gifts from people who will be attending.

I sent thank yous immediately. For those that are also coming to the wedding, I will send one of the photo thank yous to express our gratitude that they will be sharing our day.