RD Question

MrsStefan Posted: May 06, 2005 11:01 AM

RD Question

Do I need to invite significant others to the RD when only one person from the couple is in the wedding party? Ex- I am having my roomate from college but not her boyfriend in the wedding party. Do I invite the boyfriend to RD???

ChrissynRicky Posted: May 06, 2005 11:03 AM

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Posted by MrsStefan

Do I need to invite significant others to the RD when only one person from the couple is in the wedding party? Ex- I am having my roomate from college but not her boyfriend in the wedding party. Do I invite the boyfriend to RD???

I don't know what etiquette is, but we are not inviting anyone's significant others. We are keeping it STRICTLY to those involved in the wedding and for the lil ones (fg's/rb's) their parents.

mltm914 Posted: May 06, 2005 11:05 AM

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We invited significant others, especially since some of them were traveling from out of town.

jms100303 Posted: May 06, 2005 11:10 AM

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Posted by mltm914

We invited significant others, especially since some of them were traveling from out of town.

We did the same. But most of the bridal party had SO's and were married. Noone just brought a 'date' to our RD.

MrsStefan Posted: May 06, 2005 11:11 AM

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We wouldnt be having people travling who are in the bridal party. But I know the FH is not going to wait to invite SO's for people who are only dating. I will have to talk it over with him when it comes time to plan.

nylisa Posted: May 06, 2005 11:12 AM

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We did too but most of the SO were with husbands/wives or long term girlfriends.

DjPiLL Posted: May 06, 2005 11:13 AM

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Half of both mine and FI's wedding parties are married... so their spouses are invited.

My sister has been dating a guy for 6 months and my parents see no problem inviting him.

Everyone else is single. One guy was dating a girl for a few years and I would have invited her (since they were long term)... but they just broke up two weeks ago. His new fling is not coming to the dinner (but she is coming to the wedding).

lilacwine Posted: May 06, 2005 11:18 AM

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We invited the single groomsmen with guest to the RD. Both have girlfriends that will be coming to the wedding.

cindyandkevin Posted: May 06, 2005 11:23 AM

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I would invite SO if they were married or going out for a long time. I wouldn't have any single people bring a guest. It's not that kind of thing. JMO!

anjerandunder Posted: May 06, 2005 11:26 AM

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Hi there!! We invited the people in the bp and if they were invited to the wedding with a guest we gave them the opportunity to bring the guest also. Jus

buggiegirl Posted: May 06, 2005 12:09 PM

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Posted by ChristineAEid

Posted by MrsStefan

Do I need to invite significant others to the RD when only one person from the couple is in the wedding party? Ex- I am having my roomate from college but not her boyfriend in the wedding party. Do I invite the boyfriend to RD???

I don't know what etiquette is, but we are not inviting anyone's significant others. We are keeping it STRICTLY to those involved in the wedding and for the lil ones (fg's/rb's) their parents.

good luck- you know what I have been going through

IMO and I have said this a million times- you have to draw the line somewhere!! BUT wherever you draw it, someone will be pi$$ed!!

Soon2BMrsJoeF Posted: May 06, 2005 12:22 PM

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I think that if the person/couple is coming from out of town you should invite significant others because it is only fair. Otherwise keep it to the bridal party and that's it.

ChrissynRicky Posted: May 06, 2005 12:26 PM

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Posted by buggiegirl

Posted by ChristineAEid

Posted by MrsStefan

Do I need to invite significant others to the RD when only one person from the couple is in the wedding party? Ex- I am having my roomate from college but not her boyfriend in the wedding party. Do I invite the boyfriend to RD???

I don't know what etiquette is, but we are not inviting anyone's significant others. We are keeping it STRICTLY to those involved in the wedding and for the lil ones (fg's/rb's) their parents.

good luck- you know what I have been going through

IMO and I have said this a million times- you have to draw the line somewhere!! BUT wherever you draw it, someone will be pi$$ed!!

The SO's are invited to the wedding, we just do not feel that they should be sharing in the RD b/c it is intimate and involves the BP - no reason to have TWO parties! That's why there's a reception - the SO's are invited to that...more than enough!

buggiegirl Posted: May 06, 2005 12:32 PM

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Posted by ChristineAEid

Posted by buggiegirl

Posted by ChristineAEid

Posted by MrsStefan

Do I need to invite significant others to the RD when only one person from the couple is in the wedding party? Ex- I am having my roomate from college but not her boyfriend in the wedding party. Do I invite the boyfriend to RD???

I don't know what etiquette is, but we are not inviting anyone's significant others. We are keeping it STRICTLY to those involved in the wedding and for the lil ones (fg's/rb's) their parents.

good luck- you know what I have been going through

IMO and I have said this a million times- you have to draw the line somewhere!! BUT wherever you draw it, someone will be pi$$ed!!

The SO's are invited to the wedding, we just do not feel that they should be sharing in the RD b/c it is intimate and involves the BP - no reason to have TWO parties! That's why there's a reception - the SO's are invited to that...more than enough!

I totally agree, but my guests think otherwise do these people think we are made of $$?

melissaandsean Posted: May 06, 2005 01:13 PM

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I think any SO's or spouses should be invited to the RD. I would be completely offended if someone invited me without my partner.

melissaandsean Posted: May 06, 2005 01:25 PM

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I also just went to look up the etiquette for the Rehearsal Dinner -

The guest list includes members of the wedding party, their spouses or dates, the families, the officiant and his or her spouse, and sometimes, out-of-town guests.

Of course you are free to do whatever you want. But normally, this is what is done. And personally, I think it's the least that can be done for people who are spending so much money to be there for your day. You want them to be happy and to have a good time. That includes, including their SO's.

wood2be Posted: May 06, 2005 01:26 PM

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Posted by melissaandsean

I think any SO's or spouses should be invited to the RD. I would be completely offended if someone invited me without my partner.

I totally agree.

LFitzy79 Posted: May 06, 2005 01:41 PM

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I agree that SO should be invited to the RD. It's ettiquette for a reason.

curliegirl Posted: May 06, 2005 01:42 PM

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Posted by nylisa

We did too but most of the SO were with husbands/wives or long term girlfriends.

Same here, and we have a lot of family couples in the BP, so it was only a few, and they are good friends, we couldn't exclude them.

germai68 Posted: May 06, 2005 02:03 PM

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Any one who has a serious boyfriend, fiance or husband (also girlfriend, wife!!) is invited with that person. People who don't have any of the above are stage for both the RD and the wedding.