They pay for it, but are they responsible for selecting the venue?
pa56
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Posted by mlcvln129
They pay for it, but are they responsible for selecting the venue?
I'm assuming the person that pays for it gets the most input, but I don't know for sure.
MLAngelo
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I think they have a say if they want to, but you should have input. In our case FMIL lives in NJ so fh and I chose the place but FMIL is picking the menu.
Dr Meg
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I think it depends on if they want to pick the place. FH's parents live in NJ and told us find a few places and try them out and let them know where we want it booked.
mlcvln129
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Meanwhile, my family and his family both live in Nassau County, so. . .yeah. I might hint at a couple of places to FH that he can share with FMIL.
kgicrls
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I guess it all depends on the people, your in-laws. Do they care where it is? it would be nice if you have a say.
mlcvln129
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Hmm. . .I'm just afraid that they might select the restaurant that my mom used to work for. THAT would be in really, really bad taste, and my mom would be mortified. This is why I want some control over it.
gina409
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i think the grooms side pays for it but i wouldnt think they get to pick the spot..maybe some input but i would think u and fh make the final choice..jmo maybe im wrong??
Espo22
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well traditionally the grooms parents pay for it, and as far as who picks the venue well it will depend on his parents lol. If they are paying it will just depend on how they are, they might ask you what place you want and go with that or they might be the type who want to pick the place since they are paying. Ive seen it both ways.
IL's paid for it, and dh made a request and they went with that. But ive seen some ladies on here say that their il's picked and didnt listen to what they wanted
mlcvln129
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My FMIL was trying to convince my mother to have MY shower that MY mother and MY sister/MOH are planning to have it at the restaurant my mother used to work at. Luckily, there are too many people who are coming to the shower, so that's how we got out of that one. I know IL's going to try to pull that again for the RD just because she thinks we can get a 'discount.' This is the same IL who tried to convince us to use the same venue and vendors she used 26 years ago because they know my FH's last name, apparently, His cousin is using almost all of the vendors that IL used 26 years ago, but I said NO WAY--we are going to choose the right vendors for us. Yes, I can see the merit in trying to get a discount for wedding stuff, but I'm not the type of person who likes to be forced into a certain direction. FH knows this, my family knows this, my friends know this. . .she doesn't seem to get it. (Oh, also, she doesn't have any daughters, so she thinks she can control my wedding. Yeah, FH puts the kabash on that every time she tries. I love him!!!!)
See why I want to have control over the RD venue????
