Re: BM Attire

So I went w/ some of my girls and they ordered their gowns The dress is the color as shown but I decided to go with a Black sash since our wedding is Black -tie preferred. IMO it was more appropriate. Well while I was there I saw these gorgeus shoes in White satin with several rows of crystals/rhinestones around the ankle strap... They're so hot. I ordered them for myself They come in black, I'm thinking of suggesting them to my girls for them to wear ... I think that might be kinda bridezilla-ish..

I dont think its bad to ' suggest' it. However, I would not make them get those shoes because everyones feet are different and what may work for one, may not work for another.

An example is when was in a wedding where we had to get the same shoes and it ****** because they were very strappy and I have small toes and the straps dug into my toes. I was bleeding by the end of the church. I told the bride that it was an issue in the store but she wanted ' all to have the same shoe'

HTH

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Posted by MikeandJess

I think I might tell them that they can choose whichever shoe they want but I want it to be died to match sash in their dress. They can always die the show black after.

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They would order the shoes in Black since the sash is black...

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Posted by ynksfan167

I dont think its bad to ' suggest' it. However, I would not make them get those shoes because everyones feet are different and what may work for one, may not work for another.

An example is when was in a wedding where we had to get the same shoes and it ****** because they were very strappy and I have small toes and the straps dug into my toes. I was bleeding by the end of the church. I told the bride that it was an issue in the store but she wanted ' all to have the same shoe'

HTH

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Great point thanks. Two bridesmaids were there today and they want to order them in black, they are so cute! I'm trying to find pics of it online.. I can def. see why these girls love them and the others might not. One Jr. BM is 5'10 and 15, the 3 inch heels would put her over 6'...

I'm going to strongly suggest that my BMs wear silver shoes (or gold, if they prefer). The BM dress is a unique color (tissue taffeta, so it has a shimmer) and it wouldn't really be practical to get dyed-to-match shoes. The dress is long, so you won't really see the shoes anyway.

I'm fine with them picking out their own shoes (I'm big on comfort) and hope they can agree on silver or gold (I think silver might look better) but if a BM feels strongly against it I won't really care.

I'd probably feel differently if I picked short dresses though since I like things to look uniform

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Posted by perfectpair

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Posted by MikeandJess

I think I might tell them that they can choose whichever shoe they want but I want it to be died to match sash in their dress. They can always die the show black after.

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They would order the shoes in Black since the sash is black...

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yea I read that, I guess it depends on the price of the shoe. If it's something ridiculous I wouldn't expect my BM's to pay for it

I don't think it's bridezilla-ish becaue you are not demanding them to buy these shoes. They very well may buy them but they dont have to. My girls are in black dresses with a sort of white sash. I'm asking them to just get satin black closed-toe shoes such as dyables. With black shoes there are soooo many different options. Kind of want to keep things uniform...i don't want everyone's 'funky' toes appearing in the pics lol

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by perfectpair

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Posted by MikeandJess

I think I might tell them that they can choose whichever shoe they want but I want it to be died to match sash in their dress. They can always die the show black after.

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They would order the shoes in Black since the sash is black...

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yea I read that, I guess it depends on the price of the shoe. If it's something ridiculous I wouldn't expect my BM's to pay for it

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$85 w/ 10%off is that ridiculous?

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Posted by perfectpair

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by perfectpair

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Posted by MikeandJess

I think I might tell them that they can choose whichever shoe they want but I want it to be died to match sash in their dress. They can always die the show black after.

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They would order the shoes in Black since the sash is black...

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yea I read that, I guess it depends on the price of the shoe. If it's something ridiculous I wouldn't expect my BM's to pay for it

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$85 w/ 10%off is that ridiculous?

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I do think that is a bit much...remember..you're already asking them to buy a dress and get their hair done probably. They're going to or helping plan a bridal shower and a bachelorette party. I know it would have been tough for me to come up with $80 for shoes after I was my cousins MOH.

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Posted by LauraD419

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Posted by perfectpair

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Posted by MikeandJess

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Posted by perfectpair

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Posted by MikeandJess

I think I might tell them that they can choose whichever shoe they want but I want it to be died to match sash in their dress. They can always die the show black after.

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They would order the shoes in Black since the sash is black...

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yea I read that, I guess it depends on the price of the shoe. If it's something ridiculous I wouldn't expect my BM's to pay for it

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$85 w/ 10%off is that ridiculous?

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I do think that is a bit much...remember..you're already asking them to buy a dress and get their hair done probably. They're going to or helping plan a bridal shower and a bachelorette party. I know it would have been tough for me to come up with $80 for shoes after I was my cousins MOH.

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Thanks, I didn't even think of it like that

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Posted by bluegreen08

I'm going to strongly suggest that my BMs wear silver shoes (or gold, if they prefer). The BM dress is a unique color (tissue taffeta, so it has a shimmer) and it wouldn't really be practical to get dyed-to-match shoes. The dress is long, so you won't really see the shoes anyway.

I'm fine with them picking out their own shoes (I'm big on comfort) and hope they can agree on silver or gold (I think silver might look better) but if a BM feels strongly against it I won't really care.

I'd probably feel differently if I picked short dresses though since I like things to look uniform

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we have the same color and I'm suggesting silver also...some girls already have silver shoes they can wear, and they others seemed fine with it--metallic is such a big trend now it's not hard to find them!