Ready to cry...Updated-Things are looking up

Well this time it's not the family or the inlaws or even friends and ex-friends(MOH).
Okay today my newest problem started with the deacon of the church we were planning on getting married at calling to tell me he had bad news for me. See when I was a teenager I got pregnant and my family convinced me for legal reasons to marry the jerk. Well even though we are divorced by Nassau County I need to annul the church wedding. We had some hope that the marriage wasn't registered in church(we were married first in city hall)but it didn't turn out that way...long story behind it were his sister called pretending to be me and cancelled the wedding and I didn't know I needed another marriage license to get remarried in church, yada yada yada. Anyway it turns out we were registered. Well the deacon informed me that it would take 13months to get the annulment but not to worry because I was getting married in 18months. Okay I knew this from talking to some girls here. Then he tells me that they can't put me in the church books though until the anullment goes through so I can't book my wedding until feb. or 2006 and by then they can't guarantee that my date will be available. Okay now depressed I ask as long as everything works out what is the earliest mass we can have because our reception is 12:30pm(I want my bp pics over before ch so I don't have to give up reception time)so he says well we are going with May 29th right what day is that so I tell him Monday and he tells me he has more bad news for me....You can't get married on a monday in church. Fri., Sat, or Sun. Now I call the hall...and she apologizes for telling me that I would have no problem getting a mass for monday(took this day to save money)and to call her with new date. Yeah well I was too emotional to go any further. I had FH call church back to ask what time was earliest to have Sat. mass and they tell him 11am. or 1pm. Now that Im in tears I explain to FH, well now we are probably going to have to move it to an evening wedding which not only goes up significantly per person but the min. goes up too. That's alot of money. I feel like Im watching my dream wedding go down the tubes. My familys answer is well don't get married in catholic church. I hate the thought of that. I don't know what to do except cry which I seem to be doing very well.
FH tells me he will call the hall with alternate dates and work something out so I don't have to deal with it right now!! Can't wait to see what the problem of tommorow will bring me cause I know there is another one with my name on it out there and I have a feeling it will surface Friday night at his cousins wedding were we will be sitting next to FBIL and wife who we don't get along with and don't talk to because they are not only jealous people but look down on us because they dont like the way we raise our children(they don't have any) and lets not forget FH parents who we are not speaking too because FH caught them talking about him and his mother turned the whole thing around on me and in her own way told him Im not a good mother or good girlfriend.

Thanks to some great ladies on this board I think I may be able to keep my wedding date and have a church. It's outside the catholic religion(which still poses a slight conflict for me)but it's very close and I can still be married before god and Im still going to go through with the anullment and renew my vows within the catholic church with just my immediate family. Last night I was going to call the whole thing off and today Im seeing everything a bit clearer. I have all of you ladies to thank for holding my hand and for FH being soooooo patient with my craziness. So THANK YOU!! THANK YOU!!