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MrsC2010
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grr...i am getting so frustrated. i really wish i could just move my date up.
i have several friends who are engaged so we talk about wedding plans. well i learned quickly after several ideas being taken to stop telling my ideas i will look like the copy cat even though they were my ideas first... besides this, i have several ppl who got engaged well after me and are getting married before me...which i know is my own fault for doing a longer engagement...but it just makes me kinda upset. well now i see that one of the girls that was in my sorority (we weren't very close but have several mutual friends that would go to both weddings) is getting married the day after me in PA. well i feel like a lot of my friends are from PA so it would be easier to go to her wedding and its a saturday so why would they travel to mine on a friday?!
ugh i really have been trying to consider if its possible to move up my wedding date like to the fall or something....i know it would be crazy esp bc i have most vendors booked. i would prob have to change some vendors and lose money....and it would be soo soon...ahh i dunno
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i wouldn't worry about it your wedding will be great and you were engaged first - let people bite off your ideas - let there wedding not be original and there own
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if you want to move it up because YOU want to then do it but don't do it just because people are gettin married first. Its not race - its your wedding
jayepyt
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i know how u feel thats y i tell no one my plans anymore i tell some things on here but not much as some of u girls may notice its just who iam dont u hate when ppl get engaged b4 u and u get married after them i was 1 of the first in my family to want a big wedding then everyone else wants too so now i look like the damn copy cat AND IF MY FAM SEE THIS IAM NOT COPYING ANYTHING FROM U I HAD THESE IDEAS IN MY HEAD B4 U WERE EVEN ENGAGED HUMPPPPPPPP SO THINK IAM BITTING
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dont change your date for a couple of guests. how many people are you actually talking about? if its like 40% or more of your guest list, i would definitely consider changing the date. but if its just a handful, dont do it!
as for the girls copying your ideas, you hit the nail on the head- dont tell them what you're doing! give them different ideas so they're as suprised as teh rest of the guests on your day.
its going to be awesome, dont stress about this! then you might lose deposits, certain vendors... its a lot to sacrifice for a few college friends.
Jna2010
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honestly i used to feel like that and then im like who cares, were all getting married anyway, now it seems like if someone getting married a few months before you your date will never come but after being married youll realize how small a gap that is
i dont tell anyone anything either..... that is, besides you girlies! it was just causing way too much uneccasry drama
as for your friend, thats a little rude booking the date right after yours, but what can you do? nothing, so whoever wants to come to your wedding will come and whoever doesnt, wont
moving your date might turn into a huge hassle, so i wouldnt recommend that
regy_k
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I wouldnt move the wedding date b/c of these reasons. no way! dont do it. there is a reason why u booked this date. be it money, wanting to enjoy the planning, date worked out best -->there is a reason.
why wouldnt ppl come to ur wedding? if ur close and important to each other they will. and if they dont, then.... they dont deserve to be a part of ur life, if thats their concern. I went to my bff's wedding in Israel when tkts where crazy expansive b/c she is important to me and I was excited to see her getting married.
regarding telling ppl ur ideas, as u said: stop telling them. and I need to take the same advice. not that ppl steal my ideas, in my case they criticize them to death. talk to us - we're cooler
hope u feel better
MrsH37
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awww you poor thing! I wouldnt change the date unless you really want to and it is effecting a lot of people's attendance.
As far as stealing your ideas... add something more creative to your existing ideas. and don't tell anyone about them.
All of my friends were using pianists for their wedding and I made the mistake of saying I wanted a String Quartet...well everyone had a string Quartet....so I decided to get a harpist instead just to be different. I'm happy I did that
Hope it all works out for you!
GR2010
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I hear ya, but I wouldn't worry... the more and more I think about it I keep asking myself why we picked a date so far out...
I think it'll go by fast enough though. July is almost over. Today my boss sent me an email saying there is only 158 days until Christmas!
Ignore the people who are stealing your ideas and as for the girl who planned her wedding for the day after yours. Who does that? I am sure a lot of your PA friends will still come.
Is it worth the money you'll lose on vendors just to push the wedding up? I don't know if I would at this point and I still have well over a year...
Spring143
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ughh how annoying. I feel ya---f them tho. your wedding will be the best.
asg450
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Don't worry about other people's weddings, you know that you have been working hard at planning your dream wedding. I know what you mean about people stealing your ideas; I like to keep my plans to myself with friends and family. I only share idea on the boards.
Change your date because you and FH want to, not because you're afraid people will think you stole their ideas or because you think some of your guests will not be able to make it to yours if there is a wedding the following day.
I understand how you are feeling; but please don't let it all get to you.
futureMrsJSL
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I'm sorry this is happening to you. I've definitely learned to be more quiet around people who are engaged because I had a similar situation happen with the whole sharing of ideas thing and it's not a good feeling (especially when you know it was your idea first). But I do think all of the people who truly love you will be present on that day and that you are gonna have an amazing wedding. All of your weddings will be different and yours will be unique and special too.
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I wouldn't worry. whats sets your wedding apart from others is you. As a wedding guest I wouldn't call anyone a copycat because I don't remember all the details. Maybe some do but most don't. I would start telling people fake details so they would copy the wrong stuff.
MrsC2010
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thanks for the advice girls....i was just in a bad mood last night and really felt like i just want the wedding to be sooner! I talked to FH and everything is ok....he really was not for moving the date up. He's like if you want to go get married tomorrow I would love to, but as far as moving the wedding its not worth it because we already have so much $$ and time invested in all our vendors. He made me feel better so I think for now I will stick with my date lol...lets see how things go
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Posted by StaceYums81
if you want to move it up because YOU want to then do it but don't do it just because people are gettin married first. Its not race - its your wedding
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Soon2bShea
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Posted by AdriandSteve
Posted by StaceYums81
if you want to move it up because YOU want to then do it but don't do it just because people are gettin married first. Its not race - its your wedding
ita
ita as well
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I wouldnt move the wedding date b/c of these reasons. no way! dont do it. there is a reason why u booked this date. be it money, wanting to enjoy the planning, date worked out best -->there is a reason.
why wouldnt ppl come to ur wedding? if ur close and important to each other they will. and if they dont, then.... they dont deserve to be a part of ur life, if thats their concern. I went to my bff's wedding in Israel when tkts where crazy expansive b/c she is important to me and I was excited to see her getting married.
regarding telling ppl ur ideas, as u said: stop telling them. and I need to take the same advice. not that ppl steal my ideas, in my case they criticize them to death. talk to us - we're cooler
hope u feel better
Regy, u said everything i wanted too!!....its hard but at the end you have to do what makes u and FH happy...if you're guests are people who love you two they will find a way there...they have more than enough time to figure out how they will get there!!!
Dont you feel so much better after talking to ur FH?
runnerbride1023
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I think you made the right decision!
shelbylove918
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I wouldnt move it up.. You have everything all set for your date and im sure everyone will be there that you want there. :) i wouldnt worry about your friends gettin married first. . i come to realize everyone has such different tastes and ideas . im sure your wedding will be different from theres.. and actually the great thing about goin to their weddings first is to see what they do so you know either not to do it cause u dont like it.. or add that to your wedding cause you do!! i wouldnt worry about it:) HTH.. :) it will all work out for you
SuzanneK
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Believe me I understand I learned not to tell anyone my ideas except for you guys. But I trust all of you. I am tired of my wedding song being taken and DIY projects taken. uuuggghhhh. All you have to do is stop telling anyone your ideas. Im sorry your going thru this. Only move up the wedding date if its something that you want to do but dont do it because of anyone else.
