Regarding the no kids @ wedding....

Opera_Ghost Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:44 PM

Regarding the no kids @ wedding....

How do you 'politely' put in an invite that wedding is adults only and no children are invited?

Or is that something that is put in an invite?

missliss Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:47 PM

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Just write the parent's names on the invitation. Don't put and family or any kids names. They should get the hint. If they don't, have your parents call and explain, or you can.

IMO there's no correct way to word it on invitations. Some people put Adult Reception on their reception cards, but i'm not a fan, jmo.

GinaZ Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:48 PM

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I agree with MissLiss- I think people usually (but not always) know that the only people who are ivited are the ones whose names are listed on the envelopes.

KK Holiday Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:49 PM

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Posted by missliss

Just write the parent's names on the invitation. Don't put and family or any kids names. They should get the hint. If they don't, have your parents call and explain, or you can.

IMO there's no correct way to word it on invitations. Some people put Adult Reception on their reception cards, but i'm not a fan, jmo.

what we did is we addressed the evelopes to the parents names only. then on the inside we had an extra line

___ of ___

we filled in the 2nd spot so it would say

__ of 2

this way the parents knew only 2 seats are being reserved for them

and yet we STILL got calls asking if kids can come

hb123 Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:52 PM

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You'd be surprised... Based on some of the posts here, there seem to be a lot of people who just don't seem to get it!

We addressed our invitations to only those who were invited. We also put 'Adult Reception immediately following' on our invites. And, just in case people still didn't understand, we put out the word that it was in fact adults only, no exceptions.

I know it may seem harsh, but if you intend to have an adults only wedding, I think you need to make that clear thoughout the planning process.

dedecakes Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:53 PM

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I don't think there is anything wrong with writing on the invitation 'Adult reception to follow ceremony'. Trust me...no matter how many hints you drop, some people just don't get it, LOL! Hopefully, though...with the invitation addressed to only the two adults and writing 'Adult reception' on your invitation, they will get the point! GL!

Chanwich Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:56 PM

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I got an invitation that said 'Adult Reception Following Ceremony' and then on their wedding website the couple reiterated that there should be no children and said to call them for a recommendation for a reputable babysitter

PegaLega Posted: Jul 28, 2008 04:57 PM

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My reception card said

Adult Reception at 7 o'clock in the evening

Screw etiquette on that....NO KIDS! People think if it doesnt say no kids that they can bring their kids anyway.

dedecakes Posted: Jul 28, 2008 05:05 PM

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I also went to a wedding where the bride and groom hired a babysitter (I'm not sure if it was provided by the hall or if it was someone they knew and trusted). If any kids started to get tired, the parents could bring them to this separate room. That might be an option for you (if it's just b/c you don't want parents feeling like the have to leave b/c their kids are tired).

DnT2010 Posted: Jul 28, 2008 05:06 PM

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adult reception to follow - or adult reception at whatever time. i think this is the best way to handle it and of coarse just address the invitations to the adults. either way, im sure there will always be someone that just doesnt get it..

pa56 Posted: Jul 28, 2008 05:13 PM

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To be honest, I think people really do get the hint that kids aren't invited but feel that they're the ONLY ones asking if their kids can come.. 'hey, what's one more?!'

Well, it's my wedding and I want it my way. And second of all, it's never just ONE person asking to be the exception.

In answer to your question, I would just call people who RSVP with something like 4 when you invited just 2. I would say due to limited space, you are not inviting children to the reception. If people create a stink about not finding a babysitter, I would simply say 'That's too bad. We'll miss you.'

DrWho Posted: Jul 28, 2008 05:56 PM

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Posted by KK Holiday

what we did is we addressed the evelopes to the parents names only. then on the inside we had an extra line

___ of ___

we filled in the 2nd spot so it would say

__ of 2

this way the parents knew only 2 seats are being reserved for them

and yet we STILL got calls asking if kids can come

I like filling in the second spot. People aren't calling to ask because they don't understand, they're calling because they're passive aggressive. You could write 'adults only' in red ink with neon XXX's, and they'd still call.

cberry109 Posted: Jul 28, 2008 06:59 PM

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I am not one to do 'proper etiquette' invitations.....and honestly I don't care what people think. I don't want kids at my wedding because 1) they are disruptive (most of the time) and 2) I really want the parents to enjoy themselves and not have to run after their kid for the entire time of the wedding

instead I just wrote on the inner envelope

No children, Please.

So when they open the outer envelope it will be on the front of the inner envelope.

many got the picture for my engagement party...

lanamanitta Posted: Jul 28, 2008 07:19 PM

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Posted by dedecakes

I don't think there is anything wrong with writing on the invitation 'Adult reception to follow ceremony'. Trust me...no matter how many hints you drop, some people just don't get it, LOL! Hopefully, though...with the invitation addressed to only the two adults and writing 'Adult reception' on your invitation, they will get the point! GL!

I definitely think you should put it. People assume if they have little ones that everything they're invited to, so are their kids . . . . it has to be clear, so they can make arrangements, etc., and so you don't have unseatable kiddies at the reception unexpected!!

Some adults don't even count them when the respond and put their number, and show up with them anyhow, if they're really little!!

cynandkeith Posted: Jul 28, 2008 07:37 PM

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ok so I really dont want children at my wedding either- BUT BUT BUT i'm gonna have 7 little ones IN my wedding party- Do you think people will get pissed if I write 'adults only' and then they see these 7 kids running around???? i dont want to upset cousins and other family members.....

Goldie39 Posted: Jul 28, 2008 07:50 PM

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I plan to write 'please join us for an adult reception following ceremony' on one of the inserts of my invites. The only kids i'm making exceptions for are the ones apart of the bridal party (only 2) and if parents get offended because of that then it's an unfortunate situation on THEIR behalf, not mine! Weddings without children as guests is not a new concept. Accept it or don't come. What's so hard about that?

MyLobster Posted: Jul 28, 2008 08:15 PM

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On the RSVP I wrote:

________ Number of Adults Attending

Hopefully they'll get the hint.

cynandkeith Posted: Jul 28, 2008 08:32 PM

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Posted by Goldie39

I plan to write 'please join us for an adult reception following ceremony' on one of the inserts of my invites. The only kids i'm making exceptions for are the ones apart of the bridal party (only 2) and if parents get offended because of that then it's an unfortunate situation on THEIR behalf, not mine! Weddings without children as guests is not a new concept. Accept it or don't come. What's so hard about that?

ok so its understood that children in the bridal party are the exception right? good... my dad was saying that i was being rude.... oh well....
thanks for your help

JillandJoe Posted: Jul 28, 2008 08:59 PM

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I also let our families know in casual wedding conversation so they would not be surprised about it... everyone was excited because its a night out with just the adults.