Registering for your HM?

SwissMiss06 Posted: May 28, 2006 09:37 PM

Registering for your HM?

I thought you girls might like to hear about this one....
I was at a BBQ this afternoon at my FILs house and they were discussing a friend of the family's bridal shower invite - the invite had a slip of paper that informed guests about a website designed for the couple's HM to Hawaii and invited guests to contribute $$ to their HM Fund.....My FILs and their close friends were discussing how tacky they thought this was....They were extremely insulted that they were being asked to contribute to the couple's extravagant HM adventure plus bring a shower gift and then be expected to cover their plates at the wedding.
I tried to defend the couple (whom I don't know) and say, 'Maybe they have everything they need.' and 'Maybe they want you to help share in their celebration throughout their honeymoon.' and 'That makes sense to me.' but no one in the room could be convinced that HM registries were a good idea. They are very reasonable people and I was kinda surprised by their reaction, but FH and I breathed a sigh of relief because we had thought about registering for our HM to Germany and France but I talked him out of it because I was afraid of this kind of reaction.
Again, I just thought I should share this in case in anyone else is feeling hesitant about it.

mcb916 Posted: May 29, 2006 12:17 PM

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I had brought up the idea to my mom and FH and I got the same reaction- it's tacky and we are not doing it!! I think it's a great idea, but it's a modern idea so if you are worried about what some of the older people might think then you should probably skip it.

R&J0806 Posted: May 29, 2006 06:14 PM

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i did one and i'm happy i did. older people won't understand the concept of it, but a lot of my friends contributed and loved that they were doing so. but then again, i didn't ask for a contribution AND a shower gift. the HM contribution was my gift. and the way its set up (ie - registering for tickets to a show or excursion) ppl think theyi are still giving a 'thing'

Mitabtrfly Posted: May 29, 2006 09:24 PM

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This is exactly what we are doing! We live together and have everything we need...didn't see a need to register for irons, china etc. Whatever isn't paid we will take care of. So far everyone LOVES this idea!

Mitabtrfly Posted: May 29, 2006 09:25 PM

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I just wanted to add..some people are just VERY old fashioned..and let's face it...cheap. Who said when you get married you HAVE to register for things for your home? Why can't it be what you can use, or may need or want. After all ..it is your day.

tropicalbride07 Posted: May 30, 2006 08:25 AM

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we are doing it, because we live together and have everything we need, until we have a house. We are realistically moving withing the next 2 years and don't want to bring things that might not even fit our taste of future home.

We are not registering for the actual rooms and airfare, but the registry is designed for the various excursions we wish to do once there. This way guests are giving us gifts for us to do together.

CaMacho Posted: May 30, 2006 09:27 AM

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I'm happy we did one too! We got a lot of $$ towards the HM and people loved it (we did ours through thebigday.com).

The last 3 shower invites I got all had HM registry info in them. It's becoming more popular, but the a lot of people still aren't convinced.

ali120206 Posted: May 30, 2006 09:35 AM

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I'm planning on doing one as well through Starwood since we're staying at Starwood hotels in Hawaii.

I figured it was a good way to earmark it at the hotel that we were on a honeymoon

Mandyin2007 Posted: May 30, 2006 01:59 PM

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I think it is a good idea. Some people can't afford a honeymoon and this might be their only chance at one.

WedHead Posted: Jun 04, 2006 01:13 PM

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We did one and everyone thought it was a great idea. So many people said to me, 'I'd much rather contribute to something you can enjoy then buy you something like a toaster'. Plus, I've lived on my own for years and didn't need anything. It's a personal choice I think - some people bought actual gifts and others contributed by purchasing honeymoon activies (ie my mom bought us a round of golf at one of the resorts we stayed at, and then bought me clothes for the HM).