I have to ask the brides to be a question - my future groom believes that we should have open bar at our rehearsal dinner and I dont see the point to have it because the only people who really drink are his side and not mine. He doesnt seem to think that it is right for us to have a cash bar.....someone please help me...I am get so frustrated and annoyed with him over this.
this is hard because my fam is huge drinkers. I really think you should have at least wine and beer
agreed about the wine and beer... but let me ask you... what day of the week is it?? because if it's a week night, and people have work the next day... is it worth it to have an open bar???
whose paying for it??? if you guys are then i would talk it out.....maybe just have wine or beer....
some places might include it in the ppp - if it is in your budget than i don't see the harm in it
I am fine with beer and wine and soda, and we are not sure who will be paying for it...I think we might be because we are paying for the bulk of everything anyway. We were thinking of having it on a Thursday or Friday night. I just think that since we are having an open bar at the wedding I dont see spending 2500 for the rehearsal dinner which is like 1/5th of our actually wedding reception.
i don't think its a must to have open bar for the rehearsal dinner....plus you guys are paying for the wedding so just keep it simple so your not going crazy......and if his family has a problem with it maybe they can pay for the open bar??
I dont think it is necessary to have an open bar for RD. We are having wine , beer and soda.
I said the same thing to him about his family paying and saying that I dont find the need to pay 15 dollars a person extra for open bar when 30 of those 50 people are not going to drink....maybe I am seeing his point or something.
my brother's RD didn't have open bar and it was a friday night. i'm not going to have open bar for my RD either - i'm just sticking with beer/wine/soda
you could go with just beer and wine. That usually saves money, but still lets people drink
He just keeps telling me that it is tacky not to have open bar and looks bad...I cant get it through his 'thick skull' that it doesnt make us look bad. I keep telling him if you dont have the money then you dont spend it. I also told him that if you give people only three options then they will stick with those options...too many options are not good.
Posted by Future Mrs H
I dont think it is necessary to have an open bar for RD. We are having wine , beer and soda.
I would do beer and wine too...maybe with the option of others drink for a cash bar??
i would just run a bar tab, or at least do beer and wine
i don't think u guys need it. just do beer wine and soda.
Keep it simple and serve the basics; wine, beer, and maybe even a few select top shelf beverages ( like a vodka beverage, cosmos, cranberry etc). There really is no reason to drink that much if the wedding is the next night. If worse comes to worse, let your guest order what they want and than have the bar run you a tab. Sometimes, places will work out a deal with you in the end.
it doesn't have to be...my parents did it for my brother's wedding but they also stopped serving after a certain hour cuz they didnt want people crazy drunk for the wedding the next day. it made sense to me and it actually worked cuz everyone was there the next day sober as can be! lol
