Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

mmordocco Posted: Mar 12, 2013 01:37 AM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

Ok so I always thought the rehearsal dinner was for parents, grandparents and wedding party. I am starting to hear otherwise... Are OOT guests usually invited? Anyone else?

Also, who pays for it? Do we send out invitations?

Thanks =)

futuremap Posted: Mar 12, 2013 07:25 AM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

What I've heard/seen is the grooms parents paying for the RD and them sending out invitations. I have also heard that your OOT guests should be invited.. this makes me nervous since FH's ENTIRE family will be OOT guests. We might do a dinner with the people involved in the wedding and invite guests out afterwards, still undecided about that part!

Soon2BeMrsPy Posted: Mar 12, 2013 08:20 AM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

I also heard Grooms parents pay for it and had NO idea OOT guests were to be invited. Honestly, we might not do that. We may just keep it to parents, siblings and BP, otherwise will get out of control.

Yes! I would def send invites.

brads girl Posted: Mar 12, 2013 09:09 AM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

i always thought it was parents, bridal party and the readers for the church

ladygoodman Posted: Mar 12, 2013 09:42 AM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

You could invite oot guests but you don't have to.

dglora85 Posted: Mar 12, 2013 02:57 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

Very usual information. But how would I go about letting my FH family know that they would be in charge of this part of the wedding? Since my FH and I are paying for the majority of the wedding.

winnie52376 Posted: Mar 12, 2013 03:08 PM

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Posted by dglora85

Very usual information. But how would I go about letting my FH family know that they would be in charge of this part of the wedding? Since my FH and I are paying for the majority of the wedding.

I'm in the same situation! How do you say - so.....you know you're in charge of paying for this right? LOL

Also - i'm getting married at my RH and they don't really have rehearsals. It will be a pretty simple event. And i have the bridal party coming from all over - NJ, Brooklyn, PA, upstate NY and FL. I can't imagine them wanting to come the day before when they're already spending money on a hotel the night of my wedding. I have a late-ish wedding time, so everyone could potentially come in that morning from their respective areas. I dont know how to go about gathering everyone for a rehearsal dinner. has anyone experienced NOT having one but having another thank you gesture - besides their gifts? I'm at a loss!

Stephanie621 Posted: Mar 12, 2013 03:35 PM

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Soon2BeMrsMango Posted: Mar 13, 2013 12:07 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

We are also inviting OOT guests :)

sgf2 Posted: Mar 13, 2013 12:16 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

I've heard you should invite OOT guests. I don't have too many, so if we decide to have a RD we will probably invite them. We are paying for our rehearsal dinner, but out parents contributed pretty much the majority of our wedding budget, so we don't feel right asking either side to contribute more than they already have.

JeannineS79 Posted: Mar 14, 2013 12:47 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

How early are you all having your Rehearsal dinner? I'm planning to have it a week before so we won't have to invite OOT guests lol

Soon2BeMrsMango Posted: Mar 14, 2013 01:30 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

I want to have mine on the wednesday and my wedding is on the friday. I feel like I will have so much to do the night before so I'd like to do it two nights before.

Soon2BMrsPortz Posted: Mar 14, 2013 02:24 PM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrsMango

I want to have mine on the wednesday and my wedding is on the friday. I feel like I will have so much to do the night before so I'd like to do it two nights before.

This! Only my wedding is on a Saturday and I'm having my rehearsal dinner on Thursday. I feel like I'll have a lot to do the night before plus I'm having an afternoon wedding so I don't wanna be out too late. My cousin had it two nights before as well just for the sake of having a calmer night the night before.

Soon2BMrsPortz Posted: Mar 14, 2013 02:28 PM

Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette

Oh, and I'm not inviting out of town guests, it would get too expensive. It will just be my immediate family, bridal party and ceremony readers and anyone with a significant other will be welcome to bring them. I wasn't sure how I was gonna broach the subject of paying for it with my FIL's but luckily they just mentioned to FH recently that they're paying for it so that's a relief.