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rehearsal dinner? night before?

Original post by twoifbysea

FH's family is pushing to have the rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding. I am worried I will be really tired the next day (the RD is in Oyster Bay and my parents' house is in Port Jefferson, where I'll be spending the night). How long do they tend to go on for? If the RD is at 7:00, is it realistic to hope that it's over by 9-9:30?

FIL's are being major PIA's... they seem to not care that the BRIDE would like to be well-rested and relaxed

How many of you are having the RD the night before the wedding?
alli3131 Posted:

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We are doing ours the night before. I have to many OOT people to have it any sooner. We are not having an open bar and it should be over by 10pm so everyone can get a good night sleep

dazies1011 Posted:

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Im doing mine on a Saturday night because we are getting married on a Thursday

cssteen123 Posted:

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mine was the night before. it started at 7ish and it was over at 10-10:30ish. the restaurant gave us 3 1/2 hours. as for the 'well rested' part, good luck! haha. i am one of the best sleepers in the world. i can fall asleep pretty much anywhere and within like 5 mins, no joke. the night before the wedding, i couldn't sleep for anything. i would say i got about a total of 3 hours sleep. if i would have thought about it, i would have taken a tylenol pm or something, but because i usually have no problem sleeping i didn't plan for it.

kristentinnelly Posted:

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We are having the RD the night before, I have family coming in from out of town that are in the wedding so it made it easier for everyone. We kept the restuarant close to the hotel/my parents house though

MrsDrinkh20 Posted:

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we are having ours the night before...im actually excited about it!

TaraVinny Posted:

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i would like to have my RD the night before. my wedding is on a saturday and friday night would be easiest for my wedding party to attend.

megsher Posted:

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I've been in many weddings and the RD has always been the night before. To me that is the kickoff to the wedding and shouldn't be separate. Also, any oot bp would have to travel twice? That seems weird. keep it the night before.

michelle1024 Posted:

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ours is the night before too...so many of our bp is oot, so that will be the only time we can do it, i can't expect them to stay longer!

Sweeteey51 Posted:

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Im having mines the night before i wanted it that way.

coldasice217 Posted:

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I'm hoping to have mine the Saturday of Thanksgiving weekend, but since we have to coordinate it with the organist and FH is flat our REFUSING to call her to schedule it and he stole the church packet from me, I'm very concerned that since it's a holiday weekend she won't be able to do it then. I certainly don't want it the week of, let alone the night before.

debzy Posted:

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Ours is the night before. We have a lot of out of towners in the bridal party so we knew they'd only be able to come one night before. We're staring our RD at 6pm and plan to be done by 9/10pm the latest. I figure I won't be able to sleep much the night before anyway, so I might as well be enjoying the night with family and friends.

IrishBrideASmiling Posted:

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we are doing it the night before at 630. we have alot of OOT who are involved in the wedding and I didnt think it was fair to ask them to take an extra day off of work and rush to a rehearsal two days before. They also would be sitting around the day before the wedding bugging me

pandafish519 Posted:

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we are having it the night before but the wedding is 3pm the next day and no one will be getting drunk the night before. and if they do its not my fault! HAHAHAH

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