Rehearsal Dinner question with poll

JessMxPx88 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:21 PM

Rehearsal Dinner question with poll

My church only does the rehearsals on Friday or Saturday nights. I am getting married on a Sunday. When should I have my rehearsal? I dont think I really want to do it the night before the wedding (Saturday) so it's either the Friday before the wedding, or the Satruday a week BEFORE my wedding. The only thing is that if it's the Friday of my wedding weekend, I think it's going to be hard for people to make it on time because of work, a Saturday would be better. But, the Saturday the weekend BEFORE my wedding, I fell that if it's too far away from the date of the wedding (1 week) that everyone is going to forget everything and the day of will be disorganized. Also, I dont have any OOT people that would be coming to the RD. They all live locally. What did everyone else do? Have their rehearsal the weekend of or a week before? Do you think a week before is too far away?

TIA!

LandsEnd06 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:25 PM

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I am getting married on a Saturday and my church only did the rehearsals on Thursdays. I am very happy with that because then Friday is an easier day for me and I can relax.

SummerBride06 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:32 PM

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my wedding was 10am on saturday, so we had the RD on thursday night. some of my BP couldn't go, which i understood but there was no way i was doing it the night before when i had to get up at 4am!

either the fri. or night before should be fine since you're not getting married until 230

Michy Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:37 PM

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I think that Friday would be the best this way you don't have to worry about getting to bed late and then having to get up early for your wedding.

portjeffbride Posted: Oct 10, 2006 08:51 PM

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I guess my respone is 'it depends'. The members of your bridal party are on LI, or are some people coming from far away? If on LI, I think Friday at 7pm or later. If some are coming from far away, Sat... (I agree that it is a bit stressful to have it the day before... but that's what we will have to do becuase of the 'far away' people...

NancyN Posted: Oct 10, 2006 09:01 PM

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It varies if y ou have alot of out of town people in the wedding - if so doing 2 weekends are tough. If not, I am going to do mine the week before. its a whole additional celebreation. the ones the night before you have too much to do -even 2 nights before is tough - I want to be able to hang out and not worry about getting to bed so early.

ant n tilde Posted: Oct 10, 2006 09:03 PM

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i am definitely having my RD the weekend before - i am getting married on a saturday but still, if you can work it out - i would definitely want my wedding weekend to be as calm and relaxing as possible!

i dont have any OOT people that have to attend though!

EGreene79 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 09:31 PM

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I've never heard of people doing it so far in advance by choice. This past weekend I was in a wedding on Sunday and the rehearsal was on Friday, but only because the church wouldn't do a rehearsal on Saturday. The bride felt bad because the OOT bridal party had to stay for 3 nights instead of 2. Any other wedding I've been involved in the rehearsal was Friday night for the Saturday wedding. I plan on having mine the night before the wedding because I don't want to take up 2 weekends of my friend's and family's time, but if your family doesn't mind then go for it!

waterspout4 Posted: Oct 10, 2006 10:00 PM

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Posted by LandsEnd06

I am getting married on a Saturday and my church only did the rehearsals on Thursdays. I am very happy with that because then Friday is an easier day for me and I can relax.

This is exactly what we did!!!! If you do it a weekend before you are asking people to essentially give up 2 weekends for you. Think about anybody that has to travel past 15 minutes.

JessMxPx88 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 12:04 AM

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Yea, all of my bridal party are local, none of them are OOT. They all live in Nassau County. But I know that some people work late on Friday nights. My sister works until 6, my brother usually until 8-9, etc. Im sure they could just leave work earlier but I don't know if it will be an incovenience for everyone to do it on a Friday night, or if I should do it the weekend before on a Saturday night. Definately dont want to do it the night before. I just want to relax that night.

snydl40 Posted: Oct 11, 2006 12:09 AM

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I would do the Friday before.

JessMxPx88 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:07 PM

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bump!

NY031978 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:17 PM

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i was going to do Fri the week before...and i found that if the rest. doesnt have a private room then they wont allow a RD there! So keep that in mind! Also Fri may be a lil less $$ then a Sat night.

AutmBride Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:21 PM

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I'm also getting married on a Sunday. We're having our RD on Friday night. For people coming in its most convenient cuz they will be here. If it was two weeks before we'd be missing half our bridal party. As for the night before, I went to one once and the entire bridal party was hungover for the wedding. What wants to deal with that!
Friday is perfect! You will have a nice rehearsal, then dinner, then on Saturday you go get a massage, a manicure and just spend the day pampering yourself for Sunday!!!

sarahradio5 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:21 PM

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My wedding is Sunday, and we're doing the RD the night before. I wanted to do this because we're having members of our Bridal Party come from out of town, so they can come in on Saturday and be there that night for the rehearsal and dinner, the next day is the wedding, then they leave on Monday. It's all together, instead of spread out. If we have it a week before, a few members wouldn't be able to make the rehearsal who live in California, Florida, etc.

Kara and Todd Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:32 PM

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My cousin had her rehearsal dinner on Friday with a Sat wedding. My brothers had theirs on Friday with Sat weddings. They were late afternoon / early evening weddings.

I liked it SO much better having the rehearsal dinner the night before. I don't know why, but it just made the whole weekend flow better...

I do understand people wanting a break in between, though. That is tough if a lot of the BP is from OOT.

Fall07Bride Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:37 PM

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i think a week before is too much time. the rehersal dinner is fun, its like a pre-wedding party! gets you in wedding mode!

shelby34 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:41 PM

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I would be concerned about having it too far ahead of time for people who may have to travela long distance for the wedding, then they would miss the rehearsal.

tracy2246 Posted: Oct 13, 2006 02:53 PM

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I am having mine the sat before JMHO-walking down the aisle is not all that hard and doubt anyone will forget what they have to do. In addition, the day you will have someoen from the church at the back pretty much running the show. I feel like the reherasl is more for the bride to figure out mentally how things will work the day of.