I was under the impression that the groom's side pays for the RD...but FMIL never mentioned it (and she's been MORE THAN GENEROUS with us already)...I don't want to bring it up to her, but I also don't want to go ahead and book it if she was planning on it....what did you guys do, pay for it yourself or what? I know i'll have to bring it up eventually (I just feel kind of rude, you know)...i'll prob just have FH ask!!! lol
Shelly9697
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I would talk to FH about it and see if he could bring it up & just like play dumb!! lol
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FILs didn't bring it up, but I knew we had to plan one so FH and I decided to just do it. They threw us our e-party and bought us some really great gifts along the way, so I'm ok with picking up the RD. It won't be crazy $$ so it's fine.
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FMIL is paying for it. FH had no idea that his side of the family should host. I had to 'gently' tell him that it would be proper if they did...My parents are paying for our wedding so I think it's fair that FH's side of the family hosts the welcome/rehearsal dinner.
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i think typically the grooms family...in our case that is the case...
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My philosophy on anything regarding paying for a wedding--you pay and if someone else offers, you graciously accept (after making sure that them paying does not equal them controlling) and say THANK GOD!
My FH's parents really want to pay for the rehearsal dinner, so it's all theirs, including the planning.
I would assume that you and FH are paying, but maybe 'casually' mention that you and FH are researching restaurants for a rehearsal dinner and see what they say.
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traditionally its the grooms side but in this day in age its different me and fh will be paying for it
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I've heard traditionally it's the Groom's parents, we are going to make the arrangements b/c they are not from or familiar w/ places in LI. They have offered to pay for some things they just want us to give them the bill, but I feel weird about doing that. Probably just going to let FH handle that aspect.
Mrs. V 2008
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traditionally the grooms parents
Jonas9281
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thanks for the advice, girls!!
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Traditionally groom's parents. I think now that generally the bride and groom pay unless someone else offers.
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Usually the groom's family pays for it. My mom threw my shower so his parents are paying for the RD.
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Posted by Shelly9697
I would talk to FH about it and see if he could bring it up & just like play dumb!! lol
i'd do the same!! lmaooo
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we are paying for.
the IL's don't really have the money....not like we do either but i guess you gotta do what you gotta do.
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Posted by Jonas9281
I was under the impression that the groom's side pays for the RD...but FMIL never mentioned it (and she's been MORE THAN GENEROUS with us already)...I don't want to bring it up to her, but I also don't want to go ahead and book it if she was planning on it....what did you guys do, pay for it yourself or what? I know i'll have to bring it up eventually (I just feel kind of rude, you know)...i'll prob just have FH ask!!! lol
If they have given you some money already I would just book it & use there names as the host. Unless they say otherwise. You can always say....we were thinking of having rd dinner at _____ & see what they say.
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FH's parents are paying for it. They knew that was one of their responsibilities.. I would have your FH mention it to them
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traditionally it's the Grooms Parents who pay for the Rehearsal Dinner, just as it's traditional for the Bride's Parents to pay for the Wedding. Since my family can't help with the wedding payments, i definitely don't expect HIS family to help with the RD. It needs to go both ways.
Plus FMIL is throwing together a second wedding for us in Colorado so that his family be apart of it, so I definitely wouldn't expect her to take care of this also. Besides, I think my mother's kind of taking care of the food & stuff. I already got the place all set, so that's good news!!
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As the mother of two boys and, therefore, the MOG two times I can tell you that it is definitely the groom's parents who pay for the rehearsal dinner.
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You should ask her if she has any suggestions for the restaurant for the RD and see if that opens her up to the conversation. Maybe that'll give you some clues to whether she's paying for it or if she expects you to.
