Renewel Is OFF Xpost
its off. for now at least.
the problem lies with my whole fmaily STILL not accepting my marriage. i just got off hte phone yelling and crying with my mother. she wont stop defending my stepdad. the whole fmaily revolves around him.
i refuse to have another wedding without my little sisters and brother.
my mom just told me th reason why they are not allowed to see me when i am with DH is b/c my dad thinks he is---get this---- a child molester![]()
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yeah because i was a 'child' and he was an 'adult' when we got together and he 'took advantage of me'. I am SO sick and tired of this.
yet it is ok for my stepfather to have been abusive to me and borderline sexually abusive as well?! what the helll?
i dont know what to do anymore. my stepdad is the whole reason we can not havea normal life. we cant do christmas with the family, i cant take him to my sisters' birthday parties and all of that.
i dont want to lose the relationship i have with my mother and the kids, but i think its time i give my dad an altimatum. i just cant go on living like this anymore.
either he makes an effort with kevin, or i dont want him in my life. and that will in turn make my relationship with my mom and the kids almost non-existant.
my mom keeps telling ME to go to my dad and make an effort or even DH?!?!?! i have gone to my dad a bunch of times and it gets us NOWHERE. he knew i was getting married but thought i wouldnt go through with it. So the week when we got back and i saw him he yelled at me and said he didnt want me in his house anymore. :(
i am still crying here right now. it shouldnt have to be this hard. i just dont know what to do naymore. i am not happy with my life like this.
my mom claims she is not taking my dads side, but SHE IS.
she says she is the way she is to avoid arguments, but i told her i am her DAUGHTER. if HE wants to argue with her about her seeing me and my husband than that just proves how stupid and immature HE is and she needs ot ignore it and simply walk away.
sorry, i just needed to vent about this. i am so upset and dont know who to turn to. i dont want to talk to DH about it b/c i dont want to make him feel bad.![]()
the problem lies with my whole fmaily STILL not accepting my marriage. i just got off hte phone yelling and crying with my mother. she wont stop defending my stepdad. the whole fmaily revolves around him.
i refuse to have another wedding without my little sisters and brother.
my mom just told me th reason why they are not allowed to see me when i am with DH is b/c my dad thinks he is---get this---- a child molester
yeah because i was a 'child' and he was an 'adult' when we got together and he 'took advantage of me'. I am SO sick and tired of this.
yet it is ok for my stepfather to have been abusive to me and borderline sexually abusive as well?! what the helll?
i dont know what to do anymore. my stepdad is the whole reason we can not havea normal life. we cant do christmas with the family, i cant take him to my sisters' birthday parties and all of that.
i dont want to lose the relationship i have with my mother and the kids, but i think its time i give my dad an altimatum. i just cant go on living like this anymore.
either he makes an effort with kevin, or i dont want him in my life. and that will in turn make my relationship with my mom and the kids almost non-existant.
my mom keeps telling ME to go to my dad and make an effort or even DH?!?!?! i have gone to my dad a bunch of times and it gets us NOWHERE. he knew i was getting married but thought i wouldnt go through with it. So the week when we got back and i saw him he yelled at me and said he didnt want me in his house anymore. :(
i am still crying here right now. it shouldnt have to be this hard. i just dont know what to do naymore. i am not happy with my life like this.
my mom claims she is not taking my dads side, but SHE IS.
she says she is the way she is to avoid arguments, but i told her i am her DAUGHTER. if HE wants to argue with her about her seeing me and my husband than that just proves how stupid and immature HE is and she needs ot ignore it and simply walk away.
sorry, i just needed to vent about this. i am so upset and dont know who to turn to. i dont want to talk to DH about it b/c i dont want to make him feel bad.
