Repost BHB: Kind of pissed...

I invited 240 people to my wedding and so far only 111 have said yes. People I thought would come said no, and people I didn't think would come said yes. I have 35 RSVP's left and my response date is Wednesday. I don't think I am going to meet my minimum of 175.

The thing that frustrates me is the weird reasons people cannot come. 'I can't get off work' (ok, it's a saturday night), 'I can't find a babysitter'. My one Aunt, who is also my godmother and an alcoholic isn't coming. She told my grandmother she didnt go to her own daughters wedding she isnt coming to mine. What a ******* whacko! Myself and my parents always bent over backwards and shifted our schedules to attend family parties and functions. I just had 2 cousins cancel b/c there 4 yr. old son is graduating pre-school that day @ 9 in the morning. I can understand that they can't make it to the church at 3, but I definetely think the reception at 7 shouldnt be a problem. FH's sergeant who he is really good friends with has known about our wedding since we got engaged 1 1/2 yrs. ago. He isn't coming b/c he is going on vacation. Couldnt you plan your ******* vacation the next weekend. Some people are just so rude!!!! It just amazes me out of 240 people, I may not even meet my minimum.

oh man., that stinks!!!

Maybe you can arrange something with your hall

Oh honey, I hear you loud and clear. We invited over 180 and not even 100 showed to ours. (Minimum was 125) The excuses are insane! I completely understand what you're going through.

Bring it up to your hall ASAP! We let our hall know about 4 weeks prior to the event, even before we had a hard count. They thanked us for not waiting until the seating chart was due.

Negotiate with your hall. We asked for stuff, and other brides have been through this as well. Things that have been asked for: an extra hour (but remember this means OT for your DJ or band that you need to pay for), extra CH station, chocolate fountain, chair covers, etc. We were originally paying for a few extras and they just threw it in for 'free'. DO a search on the posts.

I totally understand why you'd be upset about this. My sister got married in October, and her DH had the same problem with people in his family. They gave everyone 10 months notice to make arrangments, and he got the same excuses as you are.

I guess some people are just that selfish that they can't make any changes to accomodate others. Just know that you will still have a ton of people that love and care about you and your day will be great no matter what.

As for not making the minimum, could you ask the hall to throw in some extras to make up for it? At least that way you won't feel like you're losing money...