repost BHB: Officiant FLAKED on us!
We had an appointment to meet and officiant today and she flaked! We've been communicating for weeks now and I explained to her that I'll only meet with the final people. My fiance just finished chemo so finding the right moment for him to meet people is challenging. I confirmed with her twice this week because timing is very difficult for us right now. And still...she forgot!
We live in Brooklyn and she lives in Long Island. We drove to Lynbrook, to where she wanted us to meet. I called her after she was 15 minutes late and she's in Manhattan. She had completely forgotten. Her reaction, 'Oh that's right, you're right here in my calendar. It's just that I had all these appointments in Manhattan...' If you have appointments in Manhattan, why overbook with someone in Long Island! Esp when it would be easier for us to go into the city too!
It made me realize that of all the vendors, the one that could ruin it all is the officiant. DJ, Photo, Video - if they don't show up, it won't be great, but we could make do. No officiant and there's no wedding!
I'm just aphalled. It disgusts me enough that these 'men of the cloth' ask for so much money as it is but do be so flaky, esp given the circumstances...it's just unbelievable!
If you want to know who it was, FM me, and I'll tell you. Obviously she was trying to take more than she can handle and I'd be happy to share her name with you just to prevent this from happening to you.
Thanks for listening!
We live in Brooklyn and she lives in Long Island. We drove to Lynbrook, to where she wanted us to meet. I called her after she was 15 minutes late and she's in Manhattan. She had completely forgotten. Her reaction, 'Oh that's right, you're right here in my calendar. It's just that I had all these appointments in Manhattan...' If you have appointments in Manhattan, why overbook with someone in Long Island! Esp when it would be easier for us to go into the city too!
It made me realize that of all the vendors, the one that could ruin it all is the officiant. DJ, Photo, Video - if they don't show up, it won't be great, but we could make do. No officiant and there's no wedding!
I'm just aphalled. It disgusts me enough that these 'men of the cloth' ask for so much money as it is but do be so flaky, esp given the circumstances...it's just unbelievable!
If you want to know who it was, FM me, and I'll tell you. Obviously she was trying to take more than she can handle and I'd be happy to share her name with you just to prevent this from happening to you.
Thanks for listening!
